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Man vs. Dog

I pick dog. Duh? I recently saw this declaration on Facebook that in order to find out who loves you more, your dog or your husband/boyfriend, try locking them both in the trunk of your car for 20 minutes then letting them out. Which one is happy to see you? Well, what do you expect […]

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Charity Kountz - Awww – such a sweet post! I used to be a cat person and absolutely adored my cats. Then, I met my fiance, who is allergic to cats but is a dog person and wow! The difference is incredible.

Mind you, my cats were always completely devoted, loved to cuddle, and were always happy to see me. But dogs – wow! I could walk out the front door, come back in five minutes and my dogs will be ecstatic to see me as if I’d been gone hours. If I am gone for hours, the exuberant joy at my return has them bouncing, prancing, body-wagging, tongues lolling, and panting. It’s the most contagious happy energy I’ve ever experienced. They simply radiate adoration.

Now, my fiance is one of the nicest men I’ve ever met. He loves me completely but he’s flawed as we all are, because we’re humans. So I totally get your comparison and agree with you. My Nani (my Sheltie) is hopelessly devoted to me. We bonded the instant we met and she has claimed me completely as her human. I never knew dogs had so much love and affection to give until I met these two dogs. Now I can’t imagine life without them! GREAT post – as always!

Joan Cooper - That is the BEST yet, Tammy.

I always say ‘you haven’t loved until you love a horse’. Well, a horse doesn’t cuddle or things like that, but just the amazing beauty and royalty of the horse’s being is awesome. When you experience a welcoming whinny when you approach the paddock, it makes you feel very very close to God.

They say, unlike humans, animals know the purpose of life is to have fun. Good company to be in.

Joan Cooper

Suerae Stein - Your post made me cry. I love my animals with all my heart. And it was my dog, Wilbur, who has been by my side these last few difficult months. It’s Wilbur that forces me to walk every day and I need that. They really are our best friends and I am so glad that Maddy is still by your side. She is adorable! I’m so sorry to hear about your pneumonia. That sounds completely miserable and I hope you are on the mend. Love the post even though it made me cry! Please get some rest.
Suerae

Tammy - Hi Charity, I always say that you meet the nicest people in dog parks. There’s a reason for that; their pets have trained them to be better than average humans. I am still a cat person but have also graduated to being a dog person. I’ve owned many a pup, usually the strays that find their way to me. But it has been little Maddy who has taught me so much about being owned by a dog and about total acceptance. As far as I see it, there is no real tangible down side to being a dog/cat owner. And to tell you the truth, I’m not sure who is happier I’m home once I step in the door. The happy dance you described goes on in every dog household in America. How lucky are we!? So very happy to have you here! Thanks for sharing and posting.

Tammy - Hi Joan, so happy you enjoyed the read. I’ve never been close to horses but have admired not only their beauty but obvious sensitivity and caring. I was a city girl growing up with pity little income so horses never entered my vision. I’ve seen many a documentary where horses are used to help people with disabilities. How awesome is that?! The love these animals give us can never really be repaid in kind but we can sure try. You’re right…they are GREAT company to be in. Thanks for sharing this perspective. It’s too bad horses can’t cuddle. I bet a hundred bucks they would if they could. Thanks for being here and for posting. You’re awesome!

Tammy - Hi Suerae, oh nooo! I don’t want to make you cry! You will always remember that is was Wilbur who helped to see you through this tough time and probably others as well. I know if it weren’t for my animals, when my daughter left home, I would have been a complete basket case! As it was, I was only a partial one. They have “rescued” me more times than I can count and I am here for them no matter what. And all they did was love me no matter what. If someone offered me 5 million bucks for my dog, I wouldn’t even entertain the thought. That’s the absolute truth. Contrary to popular belief, I think that means I have my priorities straight. Clearly, you do too. So, so happy to hear from you. Thanks for sharing Wilbur with us. Am mending … slowly, but I’m getting there. Wonderful post!

Laura Lee Carter aka the Midlife Crisis Queen - Aren’t pets AMAZING! My ten pound Shitzu loves me in a way others just simply cannot comprehend. And you’re right, he would most definitely die for me.

Thanks for that lovely post and hilarious chart listing the virtues and small in conveniences of pet ownership. It’s true, Rasta IS just a little bit too farty at times…

Love your witty and wise words Tammy! -Laura

Teri Heyer - Loved your post. I have two big, wonderful, rescue dogs, Shani and Dude. They’re family, no two ways about it, and totally devoted. Doggie kisses are the best. You can see pics of my dogs on my blog at http://www.teriheyer.blogspot.com. My husband was not a dog person, but after a zillion years of marriage he had no choice but to convert. My dogs love him almost as much as they love me.

Sorry to hear you had pneumonia, but glad to hear you’ve recovered. That had to be a really miserable time, but at least you had your best friend with you.

BTW, Maddy is a real cutie! We could all learn a lot of lessons from our pets, unconditional love being on the top of the list.

Jeffrey Davidson - Once again, you hit the nail on the head. I know that pets give far more to us than we can possibly give to them.

I have two horses, and, even though they are nothing like dogs, there comes a certain tranquility, comfort, relaxation and happiness when I spend time with them.

Your comments bring to mind some famous quotations about dogs. More will be sent directly to you.

A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than you love yourself.
– Josh Billings

He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion.
Unknown

Don’t accept your dog’s admiration as conclusive evidence that you are wonderful.
Ann Landers

He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion.
Unknown

If I have any beliefs about immortality, it is that certain dogs I have known will go to heaven, and very, very few persons.
James Thurber

If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you. This is the principle difference between a dog and a man.
Mark Twain

If your dog is fat, you aren’t getting enough exercise.
Unknown

Keep writing what is real in you own (Erma “Bombeckish” style.

Tammy - Hi Laura Lee, thanks for your kind words! I had fun making the chart but it was challenging keeping it brief (hahaha). I adore Shitzu’s! They are just so wonderful and cuddly. And uber smart too! How can we not love a little being that would die for us and whose whole world revolves around us. My life has been made so much richer because I am owned by a bossy dog and two cuddle cats. I’m convinced that these animals are here to teach us how to love. No doubt! So happy you enjoyed and so happy you’re shared with us. Thanks oodles for posting, you know it means a lot.

Tammy - Hi Teri, I scream every time I hear that people go to breeders or pet shops for their pets. Rescue animals are the BEST in the world. They know that you save them and will work to make a life and a home together. Clearly Shani and Dude (love that name) are shining examples. I love that your husband ‘came around’! When I first began dating my boyfriend we had talked about me moving back to California. He asked me if the cats had to come too. That was almost the end of the relationship. What kind of crazy talk was that?!? He also ‘came around’ and now buys laser toys and cat brushes so he can play and groom them. Further testimony that we humans are trainable; all you have to do is love us unconditionally. Easily done with our furry family. I will pass your compliment on to Maddy, thanks for that. Of course, she is well aware of her adorableness and uses it to her advantage every opportunity. Haa! Am still recovering, and you’re right, it was made easier because I had my best friend by my side. A little like life, don’t you think? So very happy to have you here. So very happy! Thanks for sharing and posting!

Tammy - Hi Jeff, LOVE, LOVE those quotes! Mark Twain and Ann Landers were my favs! Every single one of them true. You have been a wonderful supporter of my writing and I am humbly grateful for your reads. Happy you enjoy them and ever so happy to have you on the other side of my little blog. Thanks for posting!

Jenny Paulsen - As Chase, our tabby kitty, and I sit here and read your blog we agree that kitties, dogs, bunnies, manatees (random I know but I love those big lumps that eat sea grass) are all so special. Most mornings I am waken by a oh so tender touch on my cheek by his paw. Promptly followed by the smell of tuna canning warehouse. LOL!! Chase and I think this blog was purrrrrfect. We also watched the fish and Chase put many a nose print smudges all over the computer screen.

Tammy - Hi Jenny (and Chase), so happy you enjoyed the read. I have to share that whenever I bring my laptop to bed (often) Charlie can’t wait to lean up against it and watch the cursor move. He loves the heat from the computer and he loves the screen movement. I love having him there but I have to confess that it takes me twice as long to write as he always seems to push buttons that screw things up. When he does curl up and finally go to sleep, I have a half a pound of fur on my keyboard to remember him by. Small price to pay for the company. Our animals are awesome and we are better people for appreciating them. Happy fish hunting to Chase and a warm thank you hug to you for sharing and posting.

Nancy Wurtzel - Oh Tammy! What a wonderful post. It was moving and oh-so-funny. Love that picture and the chart is priceless — and sadly ALL too true. Keep ’em coming!

Carmen - WOW! What a great article and so so truthful. As you know in my next life I will have all the dogs I possibly can. Once again you hit the nail on the head. Keep them coming!!!

Tammy - Hi Nancy, Thanks for the good review, appreciate that. It was an easy and fun post to write; and I meant every word of it. The chart was challenging as I had so many more items to add, but as you know … less is more. So happy to have you here and thanks oodles for posting.

Tammy - Hi Carmen, as you know dogs are a lot less trouble than men or kids. I do, however recommend all of them. In my “mature years” I don’t know where I would be without the silent never ending love and affection that I get from my pets. And that’s the truth. Clearly if I had to choose between a man and a dog, hands down, it’s the dog. Kind of speaks volumes, doesn’t it? Thanks for popping in and posting. Appreciate it tons.

Kellie - Oh yes I do know dog is best friend. Why else would I just spend $550 at emergency vet for my little bundle of love. Not sure I would spend that on a current boyfriend at regular hospital ER. Kidding…kinda of!

Cynthia - Shane, ShoKi, Rudy, Chester, Tucker, Tanner….and all of them. They are the best friends ever…so devoted…always available…and when they get sick and leave us, it is devastating. I hear you loud and clear Tammy. They are are heart and souls, our ears and our voices. Their unconditional love is beyond what we could ever provide as humans. Tanner, I miss and love you….Tucker, I will protect you and find you another best buddy soon.

Tammy - Hi Cynthia, I know you understand what it’s all about. When I met you, you were soon to lose Chester. I will never forget it, as I saw in you a similar soul to mine. Chester left you, but not without a fight. When we lose them, I’m convinced that a little piece our heart closes. Beyond sad. Do I now understand that you have lost Tanner too? I did not know. My heart hurts for you for your loss. I understand how you feel, all of us that have been owned by a dog understand. I’m so sorry, Cynthia. You were/are the best dog mom in the world. Tucker is left behind and that’s okay because he still has you…and soon another pup will grace your life and his too. Blessings to you my friend and a strong, long hug.

Tammy - Hi Kellie, hope that bundle of love is okay. I here you; last year when Maddy was sick I had to open up a Care Credit card as the bill was well over $2,000. Yup. I was lucky … she survived. Now I tease her that she should poop gold nuggets to help pay for her medical bill. She pretends not to understand me but I suspect she knows full well. Haaa! Great hearing from you and thanks for posting!

Marcia Nichols - It almost makes me want to get another one…until I remember how hard it is to lose your best friend. I am just not ready to do that again. I am more apt to risk my heart in another relationship than to feel the hurt after the loss of my pet. I guess that means that I agree with you wholeheartedly!

Jo VonBargen - I soooo get this. I cook my dog’s meals and spoil the four cats who have me well trained. It would be a sad world, indeed, without my true loves!! Great write, my friend!

Tammy - Hi Jo, we are surely sisters from another mother!Thanks for the good review. We spoil because we are smart enough to know what we have. Glad you stopped by and posted. Appreciate it tons!

Tammy - Hi Miss Marcia, I think that losing a pet is a little like childbirth; we hope to forget the pain so that we will venture there again. Not having a dog would be like not having air. I hope you recover enough from the loss of your dear friend so that you may enjoy many more years being owned by a loyal and forever loving fur ball. My heart is with you. Thanks for being here, Marcia, and for sharing.

Stephen C. Spencer (@PaulDMallory) - Pure gold as always, Tammy!

What impressed me most in this edition was the confidence you showed in writing the thing in the first place…a confidence that obviously stems from the security you feel in yourself, as well as in your current “non-dog” relationship. How else could you get away with saying, in effect, “You’re wonderful, honey, but my dog’s a better friend than you’ll ever be”?

There was no room here for a misstep, and you didn’t make one. You carried off the job with grace, charm, and your trademark eponymous wit.

Way to go!

Tammy - Hi Stephen, Aw, thanks. I read your post and laughed out loud. Yes, I guess there is no two ways about it…I stuck my neck out. One could argue that I was confident in this post or extremely stupid. Jury is still out. I really do believe that honesty is the best policy. No need in letting the wonderful man in my life live in a delusional bubble, right? I mean he rocks at everything else, but “best friend”, I think not. Let us say out loud that he is my “best people friend”. Better? I stand by my belief that no one loves you like your dog. It’s not in our DNA. And I consider myself a very fortunate girl indeed to be able to acknowledge that fact and still be loved and adored (I may be pushing it there) by the awesome man in my life, whose name is also Steven. So happy you enjoyed the post. Love, love having you here! Thanks for sharing.

sheila - Hi Tammy — so cute! I have a sign on the wall that reads: Husband and Dog missing. Reward for Dog!!! 😉

My hubby is pretty good though since he and I together have 5 dogs — 4 of which are rescues. Gotta love a rescue!

Keep up the fun writing!
Sheila

Tammy - Hi Sheila, do you remember that old joke where the Indian woman said that she got a dog for her husband…. it was a good trade. Hahahaaa! Not to take away from husbands; a good one is worth his weight in gold. But as you already know, a dog’s love is a league of its own. And, YES, there is nothing quite as special as rescue animals. My life has been blessed with them. Thanks for dropping in, hope to see you back for more fun and frolic. Thanks for posting!

Cindy buehler - Must Love Dogs.
my Jack Russell, Tink, aka Puppy Toes, aka Potamus, aka Tinkernator…..saved my life by forcing me to care for her, take her to the Puppy Park, love her, when I was going through a terrible time. She drew me out of my depression and is still the joy of my life. Yes, I have turned into a “dog lady”…I have added a pound mutt and I swear, these are the happy children I never had (Both my boys were difficult children growing up) When people say pets are a lot of trouble, I say yes, but they give so much more than they take……………and they don’t break hearts………..

Jim Dougherty - Ha! Great post, though I would choose my wife over our dogs any day! 😉

Kesha Brown - Tammy, OMG, I am still laughing (and laughing at Sheila’s “Reward for Dog” sign) LOL . This post is hilarious!! Sharing!

Tammy - Hi Kesha, I think that Sheila’s sign is something we should be selling on this website! So happy to start your week with a giggle. Love it when I’m ‘shared’! Thanks for that! So glad you visited and ever so happy that you posted with us. Have a great week!

Tammy - Hi Jim, good answer!! You will never be in the dog house with that attitude. Ya gotta admit, dogs are pretty awesome. Thanks for the read and for the post. You’re awesome too!

Tammy - Hi Cindy, Jack Russels are Uber smart. Probably why I’ve never owned one. It’s bad enough my phone is smarter than I am. Your statement was powerful “she saved my life by forcing me to care for her…” I understand this completely. When my dad died I recoiled into a ball of sadness and secluded myself from the world. Well, as much as you can when you have a dog. But having her made me get out of the house 3 times a day and talk to people along the way. She helped me from feeling so alone and I’d venture to say that she had a lot to do with saving me as well. Happy to hear that you have two fun ‘children’. I understand the logic and the feeling. And, no, they don’t break hearts … except when they leave us. That is pretty damn traumatic; but the loss is worth the having. So happy you shared and ever so happy to have you here. Thanks for posting!

Kesha Brown - Girl, do it! You know how much money you can make off that sign! Just let me be an affiliate 🙂

cheryl - Tammy——-Loved your post. So sorry to hear you had pneumonia. Hope you are feeling lots better———and I didn’t know that you almost lost Maddy——–this picture of her is adorable. Yes, as you know we all love our pets. I so still miss Stein—–even though I know you still bear his scar. Sorry. cheryl

Tammy - Hi Cheryl, am still recouping. Pneumonia is dastardly stuff. Part of my problem was that I self medicated for at least a week thinking it was just some awful cold. That gave it time to grab a hold of me big time. Ugh. So glad you like this post. Yes, last February Maddy was besieged by a liver ailment that almost took her. It came on so suddenly. Again, I thought she just had eaten something and gave her a couple of days to snap out of it. I still kick myself for waiting those two days and never will hesitate again. We were lucky that time around and she graces my life every single day. Steiny was a rare gem. He had amazing parents. You and Bob and Stein all gave all that you had to give … to each other. A beautiful family love story. But, as we know, there is always an end. I know you still miss him, you probably always will. I still bare the scar, very visibly, on my right arm. That will teach me to never interfere with a cat’s territorial claim. He was just doing his job. What’s’ not to love and respect about that?! Happy you stopped in, glad you enjoyed. Thanks for posting! Miss you … still.

Katya (Clever Girl Eats...) - Hilarious!

Although with comparisons, my ex wiped his butt on the carpet about 5 times, but never vomited behind the plants.

I’m so, so glad you included cats in the scenario, too!

Thanks for this post Tammy!

Tammy - Hi Katya, you are TOO funny. I always loved this post. It speaks from my heart about my best friends. Of course cats are in the scenario! If I hadn’t included them they would have probably vomited a hairball in my slippers. Ewww. Appreciate the read and grateful for the post!

Are Self Employed People Entrepreneurs or Slackers?

I’ve been self employed for nearly 30 years. Last week at a networking meeting I was told by a hotshot recruiter that self employed people are just people who can’t find work or keep a job anywhere else. What the?!? I’m not sure I’ve ever been so insulted in my life. And that’s saying something, […]

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Evette - Absolutely RIGHT ON, Tammy! I have always prided myself on my work ethic – working longs hours and doing an exemplary job – but have never worked harder than I have/do as self-employed – and I love it!

Mel Glenn - You are to be commended, not insulted. I think it takes a rare amount of courage and self-confidence to live by your own wits. The person you had lunch with is a drone, and was trying to get under your skin, (which he did.)
Kudos to you.

Tammy - Hi Evette, Your mention of long hours is something I neglected to add. The hours are sometimes endless, yet it rarely feels like “work”. That’s what comes from doing a labor of love. So very happy you popped in to share. Thanks ever so for the post!

Tammy - Hi Mel, I love the way you put that “live by your wits”. Yup, I do live by my wits, some days are definitely better than others. I agree with you…he was a drone (and a bit of an ass). And he absolutely got under my skin in the worst way. Lucky for him I took my anger out in words but what I was really compelled to do was wait for him to come out of the building and run him over. Kidding. Just kidding. Thanks for the support, the understanding and the post!

Evette - Tammy, I read and agree with most of your posts, but, like you, I found my feathers quite ruffled after reading the recruiters comment about a ‘real job’ and just couldn’t help myself! Hope you are well – I send my best wishes for an amazing 2013!

Tammy - Evette, so happy to know you are “out there”. This WAS a feather ruffling moment for me as well. Please, never be shy about contributing here. You know I would love to hear your take on all things agreeable AND disagreeable. It’s what drives me. The warmest wishes to you for an epic 2013! Keep making the world a prettier place.

Jeffrey Davidson - Tammy,
Perhaps you are a better person than I am. I probably would have told him what you did when you met with him but I would have told him when i met him and he first made the comments. My time would have been too valuable to spend it meeting with him.

You are correct in all that you say. Perhaps he does not have the discipline or character to be self-employed. Isn’t anyone whose owns their own business and even employs others self employed?

John Grisham is self employed as is Danielle Steele. Boy they are certainly slackers albeit prolific ones at that.

When people make such broad statements without information to back it up, it usually indicates to me that they do not have a clue what they are talking about. They frequently are the type of individual who try to build themselves up by putting others down. “Since you are a ‘slacker’ and can’t make it in the real world, I, who am successful and good and great because I work for someone else, will find you a job!”

Keep up the great writing and your wonderful insight into what is going on in today’s world.

Carmen - Thank you Tammy!!! You really hit that special spot in me. My family has been self employed for over 20 years. When I retired, I joined the family business. Let me tell you, self employed individuals work harder, are more desciplined, more caring and give back to the ecomony. There is no such thing as a regular lunch hour and a 40 hour a week job. I am sure a few of us would like to meet with this man who obviously is a piece of work without a mind of his own. I could go on for days!!!! Thank you

Tammy - Carmen, a 40 hour work week…what’s that? Lunch? Yeah, right. Yes, I think the self employed are the pioneers of today, forging on when times are lean, working when everyone else has gone to bed, and worrying until the deal is signed. We know. And we are to be celebrated, not ridiculed. And yet, neither of us would have it any other way. Would we? You are absolutely right with your mention with our penchant to give back to our local merchants. We know what it means to be supported by those around us and so it is that we go out of our way to do the same. So very happy you are here and more than thrilled that you shared today!

Tammy - Jeffrey, I think that the man’s statement found me in a shocked state. I am well aware of the view (I’ve heard it many times before), but I’ve never heard it delivered to me with such surety, smugness and downright contempt. By the time my wits were gathered he was long gone (probably back under the rock he crawled out from). Small minds benefit no one. I just had to spout off, well, because I’ve had quite enough of that misguided mindset. And I always welcome the change to given enlightenment to those who lack it (snicker). Thanks for being here and for the post!

Malissa - Grumble under my breath, what a jerk! Send us his number and we can give him a piece of our mind.

Self employed barber almost to go out of business because of our country’s rescission . Thank god I’m retiring in sept. with no retirement . Going to retrain and find something else I hope.

That just burns my ass! LoL sorry, thanks for sharing!

Tammy - Malissa, I hear ya sister! If I wasn’t laying myself open to a potential lawsuit, I’d give out his info. That would be fun to watch. But you would be surprised how many people share his train of thought. Bizarre and ridiculous! Good to know you are still out there, Malissa. The place wouldn’t be the same without you! Thanks for posting!

Ande Lyons - Woo Hoo!

What a fabulous moment for you Tammy! This recruiter helped you get deeper understanding and clarity as to why you are passionate about being the Goddess of your own Destiny! What a gift!!

I’m absolutely unemployable. Either I’m the Founder/CEO of my own gig… or I’m watching the sunset eating bon bons.

My husband is too. However, we decided while we were raising kids, we couldn’t have TWO entrepreneurs in the home (someone needed a ‘steady paycheck’), and given he was more employable than I… out he went. 10 years later… 4 layoffs later… he’s back in the saddle again – yeee haaaw! Two weeks before Christmas he got ‘bumped’ … three days later his website was up and four weeks later he has three signed contracts.

For this family… there is no greater security than being the Captain of your Domain. Working for someone else has a much greater cost – financially, to the family, to one’s health and definitely to one’s quality of life.

Three cheers for the entrepreneur/ solopreneur!

Love,
Ande
The Chief Passion Curator

Amanda - I haven’t read all the comments yet, but wanted to leave one of my own concerning hours. Speaking of which, there are also the times when you deal with wildly different time zones than your own, so you really do end up either getting up insanely early, or staying up insanely late, to deal with customers. That guy sounds like a real jerk and I’m glad you set him straight.

Tammy - Amanda, I don’t know how I could have missed the time zone crunch point. HUGE! Thanks so much for adding that. YES, we deal with the east coast as well as the international clients. It’s a huge pain in the butt, but something that is part of the territory, as you know. Yup, this guy was a gold medal jerk to be sure, but you would be surprised how many times I’ve heard that kind of jargon from know-nothings (an affectionate term for the ignorant). Awesome to have you here. Thanks for speaking up!

Tammy - Ande, you are, indeed, the chief passion curator! Thank God, because we need one! That’s quite the story you shared about you and your husband. There is pity little security out there in the “real jobs”. Two weeks before Christmas? Ouch! The best part about your sharing is how quickly he bounced back. You are so right … there is no greater security than being the Captain of your own domain! The quality of the entrepreneur’s life is SO much better, happier and probably longer lived. How happy am I to have you here? Ecstatic! Your enthusiasm is oozing as I read your words. That’s a gift, my friend. Thanks for being here and for the post!

Nancy Wurtzel - Oh, what a terrible insult to so many of us who work for ourselves! We are every bit as capable and valuable as someone who punches a time clock. I admire you for not jumping across the table and taking him on! Great post, my dear!

Tammy - Hi Nancy, I get kudos for not taking him down on the spot, although truth be told I was actually in a state of stunned shock for about a minute after he melted into the crowd. But you will be happy to know that I had my way with him (not in a good way) when we went to coffee. I left him with his mouth open and a deer in the headlights look on his face. The real problem is that so many people share his lame view of the self employed. It’s all so ridiculous it’s hard for me to wrap my head around it. So very lovely to hear from you. My pleasure, really.

Lee Lefton - Tammy, the last time I had a “real” job was in 1983 when I was a copywriter at an ad agency. When it was time for my yearly review, my boss told me I wasn’t going to get the full whatever % since there were a number of areas where I needed improvement. (Immediate red flag). First, I wrote too fast and was often finished with my work by noon. Huh? So I said, “Give me more work.” Second, I freelanced at night and on the weekends. So? Apparently, since I was on their payroll, they thought they owned me. No outside work allowed. Last, I sometimes left work before 5 pm. Yes, but I also came in most days before 7 to avoid the traffic. Didn’t matter, I was being paid for 9 to 5.

As you can imagine knowing me, I went home with steam coming out of every orifice. My wife let me rant and rave for a few minutes and calmly said, “You have two choices. Suck it up and go with the program. Or tell them Sayonara and build your freelance business.” I did the latter and tripled my income in the first year. And I’ve never looked back. Oh, and interestingly, they were one of the first clients to hire me…because I wrote fast.

Post script: About ten years later, I got a call from my old boss. Seems he’d been let go. His boss called from his car to tell him…while he was in the bathroom. And you’ll never guess what he said next. “I should have been brave enough to have left when you did. Do you suppose you could give me some tips on how to start a freelance business?”

Nuff said.

Tammy - Lee, wow, if that’s not a crazy strong endorsement for being self employed, I don’t know what is! The work “mill” is so regulated, so stifling for a creative mind. As a copywriter for an ad agency your job was to create. You would have thought they would have asked you to bring your dog to work, play cool music and inspire yourself to create great things. But nooooooo! Instead you were expected to fit a mold, a time slot and fill in the graphs. What a dreadful fate for a creative mind to suffer. I’m so very happy you escaped. Your wife is one smart cookie. I almost feel sorry for your old boss … I said almost. Calling from his car was hugely disrespectful. If only everyone understood the value of the independent thinker, the solo employee that chooses to take a chance on their skill. Then it might be a kinder world for those of us out there selling our wares. So great to hear from you. Thanks so much for sharing!

Lizzie Williams - Tammy,

During the course of the past year I have read so many self-help articles and “you can do it” articles, but your post here today has given me more encouragement and confidence than anything I’ve read in the past.

I’m going to do this. I’m going to enter this wonderful world of self employment. I’ll do it with courage, determination and confidence! And if I ever doubt myself and my ability to succeed, I’ll come back to this post because it’s all the encouragement I need.

Thank you,
Lizzie

Joan Cooper - I’d like to know the age of that “hot shot recruiter”.

I went to work at age 16 and I am still working – at 83. Do I want to? No of course not. But I must in order to live.

It started when, although all my life I had no problem getting a job, suddenly, I guess my wrinkles were showing, employers were not interested – EVEN PROFESSIONAL JOB PLACEMENT COMPANIES. Yes.

One I remember and can now smile – the lady started to pull an application out of a drawer, and she stopped halfway through, looked me up and down, and said…’oh we are all out of applications…could you come back some other time…’

I started my own small business and I can tell you, mr. hotshotrecuriter – you don’t know what work is until you run your own business, responsible for everything and worrying if someone doesn’t like it, you lose. What an a__h_l_

Joan Cooper

Tammy - Hi Lizzie, thank you for that amazing post. It made my heart sing. Truly. Clearly you have been pondering the idea of being self employed for some time now. You will need that courage, determination and confidence, that is no lie. But it may surprise you to know that your excitement, pure joy, and love of the challenge will feed your spirit, your mind and your body. You, my dear, are in very good company. I’m thrilled this post spoke to you … there is nothing that quite speaks to the soul like truth. Take your truth, own it and run with wild abandon into your destiny. We are all right behind you. I hope to hear from you again. Thanks for sharing.

Tammy - Hi Joan, the recruiter was 44. Old enough to know better, don’t you think? Your story proves that necessity is truly the mother of invention. When life pushes us in a corner, we generally come out fighting. You did just that. A big hooray for you and all of us who managed to find our own way and make a place for ourselves in the business world. I applaud you and agree wholeheartedly that the man was a bit of an ass. Thanks ever so for being here!

Charity Kountz - Oh if you could only be in the same room to see me nodding along and cheering you with every sentence! You hit the nail on the head! I actually think, for me, being employed is harder. I have to move to someone else’s beat and I’m just flat out not good at that. It’s a necessary evil sometimes but oh how it chafes. I can’t wait to return to doing what I love but for now my family needs me to work a job and bring in a steady income. One day I’ll be back in the trenches full time again and loving it! Regardless I’ll never stop being an entrepreneur and self-employed because the rewards are so great. Good for you for setting the record straight!

Tammy - Charity, thanks, girl! You hit on something that tweaked me big time. Entrepreneurship is a mindset. It DOESN’T necessarily mean that you are currently self employed. YES, you will be back in the trenches, wringing your hands, pulling your hair, going to bed thinking about what you will do next….all in time. I agree with you, working for someone else is harder once you’ve tasted the nectar of self employment. I too have worked for someone before. I call it the “selling my soul for health insurance” time of my life. It only fueled my fire, enabled my abilities. You will be the exact same. I sense it. Thanks for this input and for the sharing of it. Great hearing from you.

Charity Kountz - Wow, you give me hope Ande! I’m back to being employed again, working for a small company. My husband doesn’t earn nearly as much as I do as an assistant manager for a restaurant so my income is the primary one. Unfortunately, trying to run a fledgling business on a minuscule salary wasn’t cutting it. The right opportunity came along and here I am, back to employed again. I miss my freedom but for now that paycheck is important but I can’t agree more – Captain is better than ship swain. Good luck to both of you!

Charity Kountz - Go for it Lizzie! It’s not easy but I don’t think there’s an entrepreneur anywhere who will tell you it isn’t worth it. Hard as hell , yes, but always worth it.

And I just have to say, I self-published a book in November – the lead character’s name is Lizzy. 🙂 You have a great name – you’ll do great things if you just believe in yourself. My character Lizzy believed in herself, made a wish on a star for snow and it came true, sending her on the adventure of a lifetime. Your belief in yourself can do the same for you. Good luck!

Charity Kountz - I think this is my germination time. For whatever reason, the good Lord thinks I need a little more grooming, a little more tweaking and a little more time in the fire. Hopefully while I’m at it I’ll use my talents for good for someone else but for now this is where I need to be, whether I understand why or not. (I find it ironic that I’m working for a 61 year old man who has made more in his career than I have ever imagined, who has a graphic design degree and previously published several books and is now running a financial services company).

I’d rather be writing and I’m starting to feel like this is going to get me ready to take that leap. For fifteen years I’ve been doing everything but my God-given talent (writing) and I think God is teaching me a lesson. We’ll see how long it takes me to learn it 🙂

Judith Briles - Excellent post Tammy–I’m passing it along to my crowd. I’ve come to believe that the great majority of the slackers out there are the ones who get a regular paycheck, not to mention the perks of 401(k), vacations, a few sick days here and there.

The self-employed, which includes you and me, most likely “work” double the hours (and have more fun and personal appreaction of the outcome) than those that have the “steady” income guarantee.

For 40 years now, I’ve started each month with no guarantee. No promise of a paycheck twice a month. For 40 years, I’ve raised a family, saved money, lost all of it when a partner embezzeled a nifty sum 30 years ago, started over from scratch, put the kids through school, the roof over the head, paid the bills, etc. During those 40 years, two of my children died. As a slacker, I didn’t have the luxury of co-workers stepping in for me; of taking some grief time off; of healing. During those 40 years, I’ve experienced cancer and got/took a few days “off” for surgery, and then back to work–nope, we self-employed slackers continue to reach out to others, sometimes in unbearable pain physically and emotionally, and keep on truckin. We slackers are entrepreneurs. We are survivors and we thrive–not because we think out of the box. We trash the boxes of conventionality of the “normal” workplace … for us, being abnormal as what we do–and it is a good thing. I can’ imagine having a 9 to 5 –I don’t know what that is. Do you?

I understand feeling a little dumbfounded–but I could imagine blowing off any time with the jerks of the world–unless it was for the sole purpose or creating you excellent post and he was your platform. Otherwise–two hours of kiss off time would find me in front of a favorite show on TV that I was dying to catching up with–now, that could be slacking a tad.

Tammy - Hi Judith, clearly you are no doubt the poster child for the successful self employed entrepreneur. When you shared you life and your tribulations here, well, it brings it all home. It’s personal. But that’s the point, isn’t it? Our work is personal, just like our lives, our choices, our children, our grief and our pain. It belongs only to us. We struggle for it, through it, past it, and make it to the other side as best we can. When I grow up (any day now) I want to be a slacker just like you. Thanks for shedding that bright light of reality … and thanks for being here. You, Miss Judith, are pretty damn awesome!

Scott Morgan - Funny how full life is of answers to questions no one asked. Also funny how people like this jackass at the networking function see the self-employed as people without real jobs, when companies that hire people to do “real” jobs often start as one-person enterprises. Then again, the guy’s job is to recruit people, so he’s got to make you doubt yourself to be successful. Hang tough, Tammy. Saying the self-employed don’t work is like saying parents have plenty of play time.

Tammy - Hi Scott, you made me laugh. You are right, of course. Hanging tough I am. The very idea that solo entrepreneurs don’t have “real jobs” was so offensive to me. I think Judith has a good point, I probably should not have wasted a moment on this man, yet felt compelled to “set him straight”. It’s exhausting being me! Thanks for the read and the comment. So glad to hear from you!

Tana Bevan - Some thoughts and questions come to mind.

Was the “hotshot recruiter” in a funk because so many prime candidates were choosing the path of entrepreneurship leaving him slim pickings for job placement?

How “hot” was the “hotshot recruiter”? His comments lead me to believe he doesn’t consider the fact people are wired differently. In a people placing business, I would think matching temperaments was as important — if not more important — than matching job skills. After all, skills can be learned.

In very simplistic terms, I believe there are those who function well from the outside-in and those who function well from the inside-out. The former do well when given parameters, told what to do, how to do something, and when to do it. They make better employees. The latter need to set their own parameters and have control in deciding how to do what, when. They make better entrepreneurs.

A person may have a natural inclination of one over the other. However, I believe time (and life experience) can cause a person to re-evaluate. For example, one could have wound up an employee and never really thought about it until circumstances forced a change, at which point he/she discovered they flourished as an entrepreneur. (The reverse also being true.)

There is never one size that fits all. A person who resorts to name calling is simply showing a lack of civility and common courtesy. In the end, such comments are a reflection on them. (And a poor one at that.)

“Hotshot” would do well to recall many corporations begin as entrepreneurial businesses, only to grow, and grow, and grow.

Whether you are an employee or an entrepreneur, be brave. Be bold. Be different. Be courteous. Be respectful. Be open to possibilities. And please keep in mind, just because a person has chosen not to “go your way,” he or she is not necessarily on “the highway.”

Maureen - Love all the comments! And would have loved to been a fly on the wall during that coffee! Having done both sides of the coin, I absolutely prefer to be my own boss – it allows me to be in charge of my life and happiness. That someone else thinks because I don’t work outside of the home and punch a clock makes me somehow ‘less’ than competent, or that I don’t have a ‘real’ job – just tells me that person hasn’t figured it all out yet – & that we have. 😀

Tammy - Hi Maureen, I agree, so many of my readers submit excellent comments. There is lots to learn from there. And I’m sure you would have appreciated the “give and take” during our coffee. I was strongly confident of his badly informed ego. It proved very gratifying for me to inform him of his misguided opinion. You are right on … this man has not figured it all out yet. But is sure sounds like you have. Kudos to you, my entrepreneur friend! Thanks for popping in and sharing!

Tammy - Hi Tana, thanks so much for this eloquent offering. Every single bit of it rings true! I am especially fond of your turn of phrase “just because a person has chosen not to go your way, he or she is not necessarily on the highway”. AMEN! It has been and will always be different strokes for different folks (I totally dated myself there). I’m afraid there is a definite lacking of courtesy and civility in the workplace. I have to assume that is stems from ego, false judgment and simple rudeness. The entrepreneur is often required to go against the grain, to swim upstream and to take those chances that can, and often do, make a difference. I admire every single one of them as I also admire the worker who shows up to work every day and gives their best for their employer. There is room enough for all of us. So very happy to have you here! I hope you subscribe and become a part of the tribe.

Leigh - Great Read! As an entrepreneur myself, I couldn’t have said it any better. I’ll definitely be sharing this with my colleagues. Thank you!

Tammy - Hi Leigh, thanks for the encouragement! I’m so happy you found your here. I appreciate hearing from you and hope you will be back!

Lana Figgs - WOW OH WOW!! Just reading the title made my b/p go up!! I think anyone who believes that is “slack” in the head! It takes A LOT of courage to step out in faith & choose the path of self- employment! Did this genius consider that MANY small businesses began with SELF- EMPLOYMENT? KUDOS to ALL who have the courage to choose their own path & pursue their dreams!!

Tammy - Hi Lana, I know, right?! My b/p was sky high as I watched him walk away, leaving me stunned and mortified and questioning “what just happened?”. No worries, I seized the opportunity to set the record straight. You would be surprised how many people share his sentiment towards the self employed. It’s beyond ridiculous to me. Of course, you are 100% right, many small businesses began as self employed people. Duh! I guess it comes down to, it’s hard to argue with stupid. Yes, let’s raise a glass to all of us, them, you, who are out there trying like crazy to live our dream, pay our bills and doing it our way! So glad you dropped by, and thanks ever so much for the post!

Jerry X Shea - Hi Tammy, Just read your article – that guys is the reason they invented the word “jerk.” A person that makes that kind of a statement is just a “weak person hiding in a JOB (Just Over Broke).” He would not have the (fill in your own word here) _____ ) to make in his own business. The last time I received a pay check for “going to work for someone else” was in 1981. I have owned 6 different types of businesses and now write books about small business success and tour the country speaking at small business Expos. I have met many people like him over the years. I have no problem with people that love their job (working for others), but when they question those of us that go into business, it shows their weak character.

Tammy - Jerry, you are a prince among men. Thank you. Am still giggling about your “fill in the blank here”, pretty funny! I admire your spirit and your sharing has only entrenched me into the idea that this man, and all those who think like him, are just too stupid to get it. Thanks again for posting here. You’re awesome!

Angela Boudreaux Campbell - Tammy:

If I have a dollar for every time I’ve heard “but you have a Master’s degree and you’re selling lipstick?” I’d be a gazillionare!! They really don’t get what I do and why I do it. It’s not even about the cosmetics, although that’s a pretty nice perk. It’s about enriching women’s lives. It’s about showing someone that the best helping hand is at the end of their of their own wrist. But, most of all, it’s about giving people hope.

Tammy, kudos for standing up for yourself. That guy is just jealous. He was in the presence of greatness and was intimidated. Have a great 2013.

Kerry Brooks - You are so right Tammy – and thank you for following through, speaking your mind, and sticking up for the rest of us! Jeffrey below is so right too; the recruiter not only doesn’t have the discipline and character to be an entrepreneur, he doesn’t have the courage.

Almost eight years and counting and never looking back!

William Essex - A banker once turned to me at a media reception and said, “Now, you strike me as somebody who’s totally unemployable!” He was speaking without thinking, in the flow of conversation, and he was immediately embarrassed. I took it as a huge compliment. We’re all self-employed in our own lives, aren’t we?

Tammy - Hi Angela, I’m so happy you stopped in to share! It sounds like you have found your real purpose and have a very good time in life fulfilling it. I would say that your Master’s degree has worked very well for you! I wonder if people like that are a bit jealous of the free time (and boy, do I use that term lightly) that self employed people enjoy. I can’t really figure out why those of us who take all the risks are ridiculed for it. But I’ll tell you what … I’m sick of it and won’t stand for it for another moment (gets out her soap box). Thank you for being here and for posting. It … and you ….are awesome!

Tammy - Hi Kerry, eight years and counting? Wooo Hooo! Wonderful! Once you have tasted flight you will never again walk the earth without looking up! I forget who said that quote, but they were bloody brilliant! It does take courage, guts and a good deal of know how and elbow grease to make it as a self employed person in this world. I happily commend you on your accomplishment! I know meeting this guy was probably a big waste of time but I must confess … it sure felt good. So happy you stopped in here to share. So happy! Thanks for the post.

Tammy - William, interesting thought. I absolutely love that you were immediately and automatically flattered. Love that! I agree, and am quite sure he meant it as a compliment. Some people have such a sense of self, of courage that they shine just a wee bit brighter than the rest. It is my complete feeling that many of these people are the self employed of the world. Not because they are better, but because they dare to try to be. Maybe we are all self employed in our own lives after all. Great having you here on the blog! I hope you come back and visit again! Thanks for the post.

Ron - I have been self-employed for 21 years now and have been called all sorts of things from time to time because I am unafraid to do things in an unconventional way sometimes. Lately I have been inundated with work designing websites. Never fear what others say and never give up on your dreams and goals. Never allow others to dictate to you. Decide what is right for you and persue it with passion, always giving excellent service and value to your clients. Failure is not an option, only a result now and then, but never permanent.

Tammy - Hi Ron, thanks so much for sharing this here! You are SO RIGHT when you say that failure is not an option for the self employed but simply a result every now and then. YES! Most of us that own our own business view failure as a necessary evil in getting ahead. I for one, know that failure has been my best teacher. It never felt good while I was in the process, but I wouldn’t be where I am today without it. That’s for damn sure. Your advise is golden. NEVER fear what others say and NEVER give up your dreams or allow anyone else to dictate to you. You couldn’t be more right on. Thank you for posting. You, sir, are awesome!

Mark M - A lot of people have said a lot of really stupid things due to their ignorance and arrogance. The question I would want to ask the hotshot recruiter is “Who do you think Donald Trump, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, and Ted Turner (among many more) have been working for?” They are all self-employed people who can’t find work or keep a job anywhere else. So how does hotshot stack up against them? Do you think he can help them get a “real job”?

Then you hand him your business card with your slogan, “I help make stupid people smart,” wink, and ask him to call you so you can connect him with a “real brain.”

Of course, I know you aren’t going to do anything like that. You’ve got too much class.

Stacey Joy - This is an encouraging post! I am not self-employed, but my second job that I’ve launched in my writing will be my first entrepreneurial journey. I’m taking it with pride! Thank you Tammy!

Tammy - Mark, man, you are so right, and I am appreciative that you shared your post here. A HUGE point needs to be brought forward that many of the large corporations were, at one time, self employed entrepreneurs. Hello? And many would be unable to get a job somewhere else, or if they could, unlikely to keep it. People who have such strong individual ideas and goals often clash with their boss who just wants to collect the check and get home in time for dinner. I’d like to think that I have too much class to take your suggestion, but truth is, it would feel so good to do, that should this ever happy to me again…class may just have to take a back seat. THANK YOU again for posting, appreciate it!

Tammy - Hi Stacey, just so you know, about half the entrepreneurs I know have full time jobs elsewhere. For now. Spirit matters. And clearly yours wishes to soar a bit higher, step out of the box and take that chance. You, my dear, are in very good company, and the world welcomes you into the fold of upcoming entrepreneurship. So do I!! Thank YOU, Stacey, for sharing and for posting.

Sandra Rea - I sat across from a recruiter when I was THINKING about going back to the 9 – 5 grind, something I never enjoyed, because I’m not good at playing corporate games, I don’t like wasting time in “necessary” meetings that the company forces its high-ups to have for budgetary reasons, and I don’t fit into cliques of the types of low-level-thinking individuals I’ve met along the way. OMG! I could tell you stories. I used to take contract work “inside” marketing departments and I did far less work than I have ever accomplished in my home office. Here, no one is dropping by my cubicle to tell me about her date, which I couldn’t care less about, and there are no two-hour useless meetings that accomplish zero. Anyway, the recruiter told me that I am deemed “unemployable” because I’m a serial entrepreneur and that if a company were to hire me, I would get bored after I had learned everything and walk out with some of that company’s clients. He’s right about that. We entrepreneurs who have smarts are a bit dangerous. Not lazy. Dangerous. We learn more quickly than the average bear, we outdo our peers, we become the center of an department or operation pretty quickly, we know how to gain trust (and to be trustworthy), we don’t play stupid games and, darn it, people like us. Just my two cents!!

Tammy - Sandra, I think I love you. *giggling* My favorite line “darn it, people like us.” Yes, yes they do. Because we are great listeners, we offer solid strategic advice, we care, we contribute and we follow up. Hell, I like me! I’ve never heard the observation about entrepreneurs being dangerous, but I couldn’t agree more with you. I can’t tell you how many times I listened to a company’s idea and morphed into something better, stronger and more profitable. Yup. And I did it without a corporate staff. Two of my career path businesses were ideas I got when I went to a seminar that someone else was presenting. I left with the thought process of “I know I can do better than that”. And I did. Dangerous we are. But in the best of ways. Love the way you think and am so delighted to have you here sharing and posting. Please say you have subscribed??

Sandra Rea - Let me see… yep. I just subscribed. Waiting on the feed burner request now. What’s funny is that I very rarely comment like this, but your piece hit me. I had to chime in. I run a wee little ANTI agency here in the OC (California), and we get more done with our little virtual team than I have seen happen in large groups of corporate players. As an entrepreneur who works with other entrepreneurs to get a project done, we work virtually and have to rely heavily on excellent communication skills, another thing that I’ve noticed is lacking in corporate America. I’ve met more inept middle management individuals than I can count, people who are afraid to make decisions or do not have the power to do so, and people at the top who got there on the backs of hardworking others. We as an entrepreneurial group work together, have to count on each other, have to develop together as a team and work cooperatively. In short, we know how to play well with others and make the playground a fun place to be. We work fast, too. Have you ever seen anything in corporate work fast? That’s why they OUTSOURCE to people like us. They cannot get things done in-house. Just an observation…. my opinion. My humble opinion.

Tammy - Sandray, SO HAPPY to have you here! You will receive my ‘chime in’ every other Wednesday. I have a feeling our thoughts will often walk the same path. I too garner a fair amount of business from corporations or small business entities. And for ALL the reasons you mentioned. An ANTI agency, eh? Sounds interesting. I will look you up on LinkedIn and connect. Always good to run in the same pack. So very happy you choose to chime in here today and pleased as punch to have you as a member of my tribe!

Haralee - Good for you!
When people complain about health care costs and they work for a company and have to pay some, I tell them how much I pay as a self employed person and the complaining stops!

Tammy - Haralee, AMEN. Every time I share my health care cost “number” I get a deer in the headlights glazed over look, mouth gaping, and finally a muted comment of “are you serious?”. Yup. There’s a high price to pay for being on your own. I for one, am more than happy to pay it! Thanks tons for popping in AND posting. Love having you here!

mindy - Hear, hear, Tammy! Life’s path for everyone is not always linear. Not everyone is made for a 9 to 5 desk job, and the sooner people realize that the better. Self-employed people are not deadbeats…they are risk takers, and they are betting on themselves.

Tammy - Hi Mindy, HERE, HERE!! Yup, they are betting on themselves and they are winning. In most cases. What so many don’t realize is that it takes time to build a clientele. I know an awful lot of “deadbeats” who punch the clock and accomplish pity little during their day to day. Can’t blame them in many cases. The corporate world is not designed to be efficient, nor does it give much thought to the happiness of their employees. Maybe all the more reasons people are striking out. Ya think?

Brittany - Rock on, Tammy! People who belittle the self-employed are usually ignorant and/or envious. That guy with the “real” job probably wants to be an entrepreneur, but he’s too scared. Your courage to think and act outside the box threatens him, but that’s his problem, not yours.

Tammy - Thanks, Brittany. I agree, there is no need for belittlement. Ridiculous. I’ve washed my hands of people like that, but I must admit, it threw me for a loop. I was dumbfounded to know that people really thought like that. So “yesterday” and stagnant. Thanks for stopping in for the read and know that I appreciate the comment!

Robin Marie Younkin - Thank you, thank you, thank you for saying this. I get the “Have you thought about going back to your real job?” question regularly, and my response is always the same: Why? Why would I give up my passion for predictability? Why would I choose safety over my sanity? Why show my newborn son that life is about helping someone else achieve their dreams and not your own? I’m fortunate to have stumbled upon this today.

Robin - Thank you, thank you, thank you for saying this. I get the “Have you thought about going back to your real job?” question regularly, and my response is always the same: Why? Why would I give up my passion for predictability? Why would I choose safety over my sanity? Why show my newborn son that life is about helping someone else achieve their dreams and not your own? I’m fortunate to have stumbled upon this today.

Tammy - Hi Robin, so happy you enjoyed the read. Not everyone did. But isn’t that the beauty of things; knowing that we are all different? If only people would reserve judgment, see the big picture and honor all of us who try so hard to achieve. If only! I so appreciate you sharing your thoughts with me here. Thanks for that. Hope you subscribe and we see more of each other.

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T.O. Weller - Wow Tammy!! Losing your mom on the same day as your wedding.

For celebrating the love you and your Steven share — congratulations!!

For your loss — I am so sorry.

Your perspective exemplifies the wisdom that comes with time and experience. I’m sure your mom wouldn’t have wanted it any other way. Life is meant to be lived & loved, and death is a reminder to savor the moments, rather than a show stopper … at least it should be.

Looking forward to meeting you at BAM!! (8 more sleeps!)

Lori Bachman - Tammy I love your post. Tender, truthful and a joy to read. Blessings to you and dear Steven. 🙂

Carol - Beautiful

Kim Tackett - Tammy, I am so sorry for your loss, and so delighted for your love.

Barbara Hammond - You managed both ends of the love spectrum at once and did it beautifully. I’m sure your mom was right there with you and so very happy for you. Congratulations on finding true love.
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Vicki - You write as beautiful as you looked on your wedding day to your “Steven”. What a glorious day it was. ❤️

Rick Dean - Beauty, grace, confidence, trust, and most of all the love for each other as well as love from friends and family is what Jody and I saw.
We morn the loss of your Mom, and rejoice in the fact she left this world knowing you found your heart once again. Your stregnth was reflected in your family which also carried this secret with respect.
Good job Mom, good job Tammy and also to you Steve.
Love you

Carol Cassara - Lovely. And all best wishes to you and your true love. It’s a great thing, indeed, to find the right guy!

Tammy - Thanks, T.O. It was a double whammy. And you are right, of course. Death IS a reminder to savor the moments and should never be a show stopper. Still, it stops us in our tracks and our mind scurries to catch up with our heart. Tough deal. So looking forward to meeting you IRL! Yes… 8 more sleeps (LOL!).

Carmen Clay - So sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved mother. Congratulations on your marriage to your BFF! You have truly inspired me to believe that it’s never to late to open your heart to happiness. You’re truly
an inspiration to those of us who have shut down being open to romance and enjoying that aspect of life again. Thank you so much for the wake up call. I’ve got some true living left to do.

Tammy - Thanks, Lori. It’s been a long time coming. Happy to be Mrs. Steven Weiner. *whew*!

Tammy - Thank you, Kim. As am I! Funny how life works. So often the happiest of times is mixed with the saddest. We learn so much from it all. I’d like to yell that I’ve learned enough. Appreciate the read.

Tammy - Thanks, Barbara. I hope and pray you are right about that. It’s a lovely thought. True love always seems to find a way. Thank God for small favors! Thanks for being here!

Tammy - Thanks, Vicki. Happy to know that no one knew my ‘secret’. The timing was horrible, but I guess there is never a good time to say goodbye. It was a good day nonetheless. And I couldn’t be happier about that! xo

Tammy - Hi Rick, thank you for this. Life serves it up whether we are ready of not. It was a beautiful day, and nothing could take away from that. I hope that she sees that we are happy together and that my heart is settled. One can hope.

Tammy - Hi Carmen, you are SO right, it is NEVER too late for a heart to be open to love. I closed my heart for years. I don’t think I wanted to be bothered, nor did I trust that there was anything out there for me. I was okay with that. Once I was open to everything and anything, life turned a wonderfully wicked turn, and rewarded me. Thank you for your condolences. I so appreciate you being here.

Karen D. Austin - Oh, my. I applaud you for managing your emotions on your wedding day, given the news about your mother. Thank you for sharing your journey and your mature reflections on love…and that great photo of the cake. Yum!

Stacey Joy - This is a testament to what happens when NOTHING can block the peace that was meant for you. I have found myself thinking lately about the mistakes of my first marriage at 22. Then I read your blog and it is confirming what I always knew. I was just too young! Happiness comes again and love envelopes a mature heart in ways that can only be experienced. I’m truly beaming for you and your marriage. I’m also deeply sorry for the loss of your mom. But yes, now she’s with you even closer than in body, but in soul. God bless you!

Tam Warner Minton - How lovely. And incredible that you were able to put your grief on hold and move forward with joy.

Andrea Bates - Oh, Tammy – what a painful loss to experience on a day filled with such joy. I’m sure your mom was with you in your heart and I’m so glad that you were able to feel so much love with those who care about you surrounding you on this special day. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Maureen Musgrave Armentrout - I’m so sorry for your loss – but thrilled for you and Steven. What a beautiful tribute!!

Tammy - Thank you, Stacey. I was 23 when I first married. We know very little about life and love at that age. But we think we know it all. Kudos to us for giving it try. For trusting and loving. It didn’t work out, that’s okay. I’ve discovered that love later in life is so much more relevant, meaningful and responsive. Not that it wasn’t awesome in our youth. Oh, no, it was. But we tend to view things very differently without any life lesson under our belt. Life, as they say, changes everything. And I couldn’t be more grateful for it. Thank you for your kind words. Truly.

mel glenn - Dear Tammy,

Mazel Tov!

Love can come anytime, anywhere. You are indeed fortunate to have had it twice. Coincidentally, we are doing many “love” poems in my poetry class, and I am sure you can write one of your own. All my best for this new beginning.

Carole Schultz - So sorry to hear of the loss of your mum, Tammy, but with all the love around you I am so happy you had a beautiful day. Loved the cake, by the way!

Tammy - Thanks, Mel. I’ll leave the poetry to YOU. I do love new beginnings. You have to admit, that out of 365 days a year, the odds are against having your day of betrothal be the day that my mom passes. The best of days and the worst of them too. Life is mysterious in so many ways, isn’t it?

Lisa Tarson - Congratulations to both of you, a Perfect & Beautiful couple. Loved the photos, you both looked Fabulous! Looking forward to seeing you both soon to celebrate your new life together. We are so Happy for the both of you!
Lisa & David

Grammie Time - Congratulations and what a bittersweet day that must have been. So sorry for the loss of your mom. This is a beautiful story and I wish you many wonderful years together.

Carolann Iadarola - I love your story! It’s so beautiful and inspiring. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I lost mine too so I know the pain. I lost my dad two years ago as well. You look stunning and I know you will have so many happy years together!

Rosalind Warren - “It was less of a gamble and more of a blessing.” Lovely. Great post. Made me happy to read it. 🙂

Tammy - Hi Lisa, thank you for the kind words! It was a day to be remembered, that’s for sure. We DO hope to see you sooner than later. Fingers crossed. Celebrating life together (as a family) is where it’s at! xo

Lisa Carpenter - Oh, such extremes, both ends emblazoned with love. I’m so sorry for your loss. And so happy you grabbed onto that happiness that fell through the cracks. You’re an inspiration. Best to you. My condolences, too.

Helene Cohen Bludman - Oh Tammy. I was loving your post until I came to the part about your mother passing away. I can’t imagine the range of emotions coursing through you on your wedding day. Hugs and best wishes and may you and your new hubby enjoy many years of happiness together.

Robin Westmiller - May your second marriage last as long as mine… 35 years and counting!! All the very best to a wonderful, talented and BEAUTIFUL woman and her very VERY lucky new hubby!

Cathy Lynch Lawdanski - Beautiful story and I’m so happy that you found love again. The mature kind, like you said. So sorry you lost your mom. The losses make the blessings all the more sweeter because we appreciate them more.

Mary La Fornara Gutierrez - Congratulations, you are truly a beautiful bride and the epotime of a gracious woman, sparing the emotions of your family and friends. I am so sorry for your loss.

Courtenay Cassel Brinckerhoff - So sorry about your mother, but it sounds like you were at peace with her too. I love this perspective on a non-giddy wedding day.

Corinne Rodrigues - Thank you for sharing your love story, Tammy. My condolences on your Mom’s passing. What a brave decision for you not to tell people about the loss of your Mom. But I’m sure your Mom was there in spirit.
You look beautiful in your dress!

Lois Alter Mark - Wow, if there was ever a reminder that life is full of extreme highs and lows – sometimes at the same time. I hope your marriage is full of the highs.

Rebecca Forstadt Olkowski - Congrats on finding love again and embracing it. And so sorry for the loss of your mother. You handled it beautifully and she was there in spirit.

Leanne Le Cras - that was beautiful and you are so happy and content – I just feel happy for you in response (and sad that you lost your mum too)

Tammy - So well said, Lisa. It was a strange sensation. But, all in all, it was a lovely moment in time for us. That is what I hope to remember. Appreciate the read!

Tammy - Hi Corinne, thank you for your kind words. It was a beautiful day, to say the least. Life is for the living, after all. It was wonderful for me/us to be surrounded by family and peeps we love. Made all the difference in the world. Thanks so much for being here.

Melissa Westervelt - Your gift of the written word is amazing. I am sorry for your loss and love your positivity for the future

Tammy - Thanks so much or that, Melissa. I am so very happy to have you here. Thanks for that too!

Kim Jorgensen Gane - Oh, Tammy. I’m deeply, deeply sorry for your loss and I stand in awe of your strength. Happy for your found love and all the beautiful things that come with. xo

Julia Daniels - Congratulations! BEST WISHES for a wonderful future!

Elin Stebbins Waldal - Tammy, Needless to say I am so sorry to hear about your mom, I admire the strength you brought to your special day and that you could feel her, along with other loved ones you mnetioned, in your heart and around you too. I too believe in second chances, in fact my second chance and I just celebrated 21 years of marriage. I am so happy for you. Congratulations and many happy returns to you and your groom.

Sarah Massengill Harris - I love your truth in this story! You give me hope! 😀
So sorry about your mom!

Tana Bevan - WOO-HOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! About time!!!!!! I remember when I first met Steven. He was recording your IWOSC presentation in Los Angeles. It was so beepin’ obvious he adored you and loved you passionately. That it took you so long to walk down the aisle, well, that’s simply you being stubborn you. That you finally walked down the aisle shows you’ve come a long way. So happy Steven got his wish. There can be no doubt the man has patience. I’m sure it was (and is and will continue to be) well worth it … both for him and you. CONGRATS!!!!!!

Tammy - Tana! So great to hear from you. When it comes to relationships, I’ve never been impulsive. Once burned, twice as smart. Steven was and is a blessing to me. At the time, I just didn’t see a reason to marry for the blessing. I’ve changed my mind and heart. Can’t imagine life without him. Grateful every day that he didn’t take no for an answer, and how he makes every day my best day. We couldn’t be happier together, and yes, I have come a long way. But then, my dear, so have you. I’m so happy for the both of us. Sending you love from afar! xo

Down But Not Out!

You know those life events that take you out? Yeah, that’s pretty much how I have spent the last few weeks. I recently went in for what I told myself would be minor hand surgery. A bone was removed from my hand, some tendon work done and carpal tunnel fixed. A slam dunk when you […]

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mel glenn - Dear Tammy,
I was wondering what happened to you; now I know.
What is remarkable to me (who faces some medical issues of my own,) is your remarkable sense of humor. You must have been in pain, but you were able to see the “up” side of this experience.
Also, you saw you were not alone and were able to trust a valued partner. All the kudos go to you.

Evette Goldstein - YIKES! Glad everything turned out so well!

T.O. Weller - Welcome back Tammy!!

I can’t help but feel empathy pains when I look at those photos and yet, not once do you mention the pain.(Isn’t it great when you find guys that are actually keepers?!?)

I was also checking the BAM conference schedule this morning and there you were! Can’t wait to see you in person. 🙂

Gail Mills - What a story…I was wondering what happened to you. Missed your humous insights regarding life and things. Happy to hear you are doing well now! Looking forward to your… Witty. Words of Wisdom.

Hope Drahos - I loved this one — especially picturing Steven saying he feared losing an eye 🙂 Love, devotion and humor. You have it all <3 <3 <3

Kaye Curren - Tammy! You’re back. I missed you! I kept saying, “Where is Tammy?” I hope she’s all right.
Love this blog post. You have learned to lean, and Steven has learned to step up.

Melanie Kissell - Gotta hand it to you (pun intended)! 😉 You’re a trooper, Tammy. XO

Betsy Cobbs - What an experience! You certainly prove the old adage about humor being the best medicine! Loved this post. Glad that it all turned out well and that you gave in to accepting help. And that you had such a super doctor!! Welcome back!

Marilyn Tichauer - OUCH!!

Tammy - No kidding! It was a super ouch for a while. But I’m on the home stretch! xo

Tammy - Hi Gail, so happy to have been missed! Am on the mend and will get back to my regularly scheduled random rants. So happy to know you will be on the other side. Thanks for that.

Tammy - Hi Mel, I’ve missed you! Yup, there was a lot of pain. Much more than I anticipated. I marvel at the technology and the genius of my surgeon. There were plenty of down sides but they all seemed to be pretty funny when you live them. But the big payoff is a new hand and a man that I have learned is very “leanable”. How wonderful is that?!

Tammy - Hi T.O., yup, it will be such fun to present at BAM. Vegas, baby! I never looked at those pictures until everything was out of me and I was over the hard spots. If I saw the extent of it, it would have freaked me out more. It was uber painful at first but when faced with either laughing or crying….I’ll choose a giggle ever single time. Looking forward to meeting you IRL!!

Barbara Hammond - Bless you both! I’m a terrible ‘patient’ and I understand the frustration. This looks really painful, but you look beautiful. Happy healing!
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Kathy Gottberg - Congratulations on your new hand. Not a fun trip to get there for sure but I’ll bet it will be so worth it when you are all recovered. Plus, isn’t it awesome to see how much our sweeties love us? I think you are going to BAM in April right? Look forward to meeting you in person. ~Kathy

Lisa at Grandma's Briefs - The letting go and letting someone else do it is hard, hard, hard. Congrats to you for managing it. And figuring out how to best manage your toilet paper. The hubby-to-be AND the hand surgeon sound fabulous. You’re clearly in safe hands on both fronts.

Continued healing thoughts headed your way as you reach the point of better than ever!

Laura Lee Carter - LOL Tammy! Now you see why I did my M.A. thesis are the fine art of asking for help…we’ll all be needing this skill sooner or later!

Tammy - No kidding, Lisa. Super hard! At least it was for me. Creativity was the name of the recuperation efforts. Tough business being so unable to care for yourself. Tough on both of us. But we mostly laughed our way through it and he was pretty damn amazing. There is medal for this man somewhere!

Mary La Fornara Gutierrez - I’m so glad you are felling better. Seems like hand surgeries are a thing for me right now. Handsome is have both of his hands CT done in one surgery and I need a fatty deposit taken off of my right wrist. I just haven’t found a surgeon I like. I think I’m going to give yours a call. Your post came at the perfect time! I’m glad you had someone wonderful to take care of you.

Tam Warner Minton - Oh, that looks really painful! UGH. I hope I never have anything happen to my hands!

Haralee Weintraub - Glad you are on the mend! Icecream is truly a healing potion!

Terri Quenzer - Great story Tammy! Hopefully you are right-handed? If so, that’s a blessing and things could have been even worse (LOL)! I’m glad you are on the road to recovery and have two such great guys to help you get there!!! : )

Lee Lefton - Geez, Tammy,

That sounds like one huge ordeal! Mostly for Steve 🙂 Glad you’re back in business, though, as I’m sure he is.

Anne is having total knee replacement on Monday so yours truly will be handling all of the cooking (which I do already), chores, chaufferuing, etc. for at least a month and maybe longer.
I can’t wait.

And I thought retirement was going to be easy….

Jeffrey Davidson - Wishing you a speedy recovery!

Cheryl Nicholl - I’m on my way to my second hand surgery for carpool goddess surgery ( correct spelling btw)’ I love it when I can manufacture an emergency that forces me to shut-down and be served by the minions. You should think yourself lucky!

Tammy - Thank you, Mary. Hand surgery was a bit more than I expected. Our extremities are very sensitive. I’m sorry to hear your pending issues. Keep your sense of humor and a stash of chocolate with you at all times. I highly recommend Dr. Glenn Cohen. His specialty is hands/wrist/elbow. Truth is, I traveled 300 miles to see him and I’d do it again. Yes, he is THAT good. Take care of you and keep me posted on how you are doing!!

Tammy - It has been a bit of a bitch, Tam. I hope you NEVER have any problems with your hands. We just don’t realize how much we depend on them for damn near everything. Be well!!

Tammy - You bet it is, Haralee! Comfort food is highly under rated. So glad you enjoyed the read. Ever so happy to have you here!

Tammy - I so agree, Terri, it could have been worse had it been my right hand. Something tells me I will find out before this life is over, as I feel the similar pain in my good hand growing. Oh, woe is me! I will put it off for as long as I can. Having these two fabulous guys in my corner has just made my life that much better!

Tammy - Lee! An ordeal it has been, my friend. NOT awesome. I’m mortified to hear of Anne’s pending surgery. Good news is that it is so common these days…a slam dunk, as they say. 3-4 days in the hospital and you are walking around like an athlete. You are SO right, Lee, it is the caregivers that do all the work. God bless you! Steven saved me, in more ways than one. I am beyond happy that you both have each other. Blessings like that are rare. Love to you and to beautiful Anne. Retirement? What the hell is that, anyway?

Tammy - Cheryl, I had carpal tunnel surgery last year on my right hand. It was a cake walk. I expected this to be as well. Truth is, it kicked my butt big time. I was rendered completely incapable of so much, and the pain was extreme. Hard for a controlling little busy body like me. I don’t have minions (can I borrow them next time?) but I was waited on hand and foot. And, yes, I consider myself extremely lucky! Thanks for being here!

Angela Douglas Mager - You have learned some valuable life lessons with this ordeal, for sure. And, so has Steven!

Carol Cassara - Girl, you have the life! These stories just had me rolling in my chair, practically, anyway. Steve and the bra is a classic!

Nancy Hill - OMG. Hilarious and enlightening post. I really loved the part about the pajamas, neighbors and can of dogfood. Classic example of what we will do for our furbabies. Reading the bra story, I kept hearing the line from A Christmas Story, “You’ll put your eye out!” Glad you are getting better!

Estelle Sobel Erasmus - Oh dear. So sorry you had to go through that. At least you have a great support system!

Lois Alter Mark - Oy. So glad you’re back and glad your hand will be as good as new. Looking forward to you using it to keep writing!

Helene Cohen Bludman - Oh my goodness, Tammy! The visual of Steven losing an eye is priceless. Thanks for the laughs, but I hope your hand is back in action soon!

Linda Lichtman - Just found this fabulous post…just in time…letting go are you? I’m presently being weaned off of sleep meds so even putting one foot in front of another is challenging…Letting go turns out to be so much easier than the fight of holding on…so glad you’re on the good side of healing…I’m hugging you…

My Dear Fellow Christians …

It was bad enough to be an apologizing Republican, now I have to be an apologizing Christian too? Good God Almighty (pun intended) people, what the hell has gotten into you? You’re offended with the Starbucks holiday cup because it doesn’t say Christmas to you, so you have declared that Starbucks is “waging war” on […]

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T.O. Weller - You know, I had no idea what people were talking about yesterday. Suddenly posts about coffee cups, what’s really important in the world, and Christmas were popping up all over my news feeds.

When I found the root cause, I couldn’t believe it. Really?!?

We talk about the extremists in other countries like they’re so frightening, like they must be stopped at all costs, like they threaten our very safety and security … is this not just a little extreme?!?

I also wonder … every country, every religion, every family, typically has at least one person or group who sees the world in a strange and sometimes twisted way. I grew up with the idea that it was best to politely ignore them and not let them bother me nor give them the fuel to continue. When did such insanity become the sort of thing to go viral?!?

Laurie Oien - Amen!

Laura Lee Carter - Yeah Tammy! We have turned into a nation of silly whiners, who have no idea how some suffer while we whine about the color of a cup.
I wish to see as much outrage over the fact that 500,000 Americans in midlife (age 45-54) have killed themselves in the past few years, because they couldn’t see any reason to go on. Or how about the veterans who are killing themselves at an alarming rate.
Oh, now I see why we worry about colored cups. To confront reality is just too threatening to our safe little world…

Carmen - Amen. Amazing that as Christians we believe we are created by GOD…that includes an incredible “brain”.
We are misusing our God given brain!

The Ninth Commandment is designed to prevent slander and perversion of justice. So.. do we know what Starbucks intent was in the design of the new beverage cup? So as good Christians we stand in judgment? This could be considered a form of slander!!! In either case as Christians we are taught not to stand in judgement…

What will be next

Kimba - “Don’t we have plenty of real problems in this world that you should be focusing on?” BINGO. I swear when this comes up in tonight’s debate, oh and you know it will, my head is going to explode.

Demi Seres - Unfortunately Starbucks seems to be that which was the watercooler in offices oh not so long ago. There is more socializing along the remnants of emptied strewn half sugar packets and gallons of spilled coffee in the trash than a decent conversation of opinions in the workplace. This is where people are throwing down the gauntlet and it is pitiful! I agree make your coffee at home and smell the real problems in life. Act like a Christian and use your energy to solve problem not create them!

Tammy - I am offended at least twice a day, T.O. I shrug it off and move on. But this stuff is just plain ridiculous. And places such a black smudge on the word “Christian”. I mean, really! Hard to believe that people follow this kind of thinking. Scary to think about.

Tammy - Thanks for the support, Laurie. Grateful for the read and the comment!

Tammy - Point well made, Laura Lee. It’s all so crazy and I’m so over it. I know that many peeps don’t agree with me, but all I’m really asking is for people to be reasonable about things. Is it really that hard? Geesh!

Tammy - Hi Carmen, I can’t explain this phenomenon. I am at a loss. There is always someone standing on a soap box uttering stupid stuff. But to have so many jump on the Stupid Wagon and have the media propagate it, well, it’s beyond crazy. You’re right….we need to use our brains. As to what’s next…I shudder to think!

Tammy - I hadn’t thought about tonight’s debate. Oh, God, I’m right there with you…outrage will pour out of every pour of my body should this subject come up. I can barely stand the stupidity of the followers of this new spotlighted non-issue. God help us all!

Tammy - Hi Demi, they ARE throwing down the gauntlet (love that phrase)! And it’s beyond insane. Either someone is serving some pretty strong Kool-Aid or people area walking through life with blinders on. Either way…scary stuff! Thank you for the read and the comment!

T.O. Weller - I hope you didn’t misunderstand me … I wasn’t perplexed by your post, but more by the way this coffee cup story became so big in the first place.

I understand why you responded — it needs to be done when it gets to this point. As you say, it’s ridiculous.

Mary Lanzavecchia - Like you, I am disgusted that a red cup became a battle cry for a collection of Christians. And, like you, I wrote about my disgust. My hope is the tides are turning and the backlash will take root and spread far faster than the silly message a red cup declares war against Christmas.

Tammy - I totally got you and so appreciate the share! Perplexed is a good way to put it. Followed by outrage and the idiocy of it all. Good grief!

Tammy - Hi Mary, a cup as a battle cry … how crazy is that?! I enjoyed your sharing and the memories your brought forth. There is a reason for the season, and it has nothing to do with a coffee cup!

Anne Tichauer - Tammy, you nailed it again! Always a pleasure reading your articles.

Anne

Susan Melchiori - I personally knew nothing of this until today. To hear about it, then to read your column, Right on Tammy!!!!! I think I need to go to Starbucks and get me a red cup o Joe!

Jeffrey Davidson - As always, beautifully written! Unfortunately there are too many other problems in this world that are far more important than the color of a coffee cup. Continue promoting to enlighten people and hopefully they will learn to think better.

Tammy - Thanks, Anne. Always good to see you on the block. It’s a pleasure writing for you! xo

Tammy - I am going to Starbucks later tonight, Susan. When they ask my name I’m going to say “ChristianLovesYourCups”. BUAHAHAHAHAHAA I was born a rebel. Appreciate the read, thanks for that!

Tammy - Thanks, Jeffrey. Happy you enjoyed! If only it were that easy. Happy to see you here, my friend.

mel glenn - Dear Tammy,
Not being Christian might disqualify me from commenting? You think? Naah. What a funny, passionate, witty column, loved it. I like the season, the carols (see Pentatonix version of “The Little Drummer Boy”)and proclaim your right to drink coffee in any cup you prefer.

Linda - Perfectly Perfect!

Ande Lyons - Thank You Tammy!

You captured the whole fiasco and bundled it up into a frothing double shot of WTH.

As usual you elegantly and eloquently wrote what many us were thinking… whew… LOVED. EVERY. WORD.

I especially love the Facebook comment by Rael Hall:
“I am grateful that I get my coffee in a cup, not in a cupped hand.”

A delicious conversation has begun – blowing you kisses filled with appreciation, love, Peace on Earth and Joy to the World!

Ande

Tammy - Cathy, you crack me up. Many Jews love the season and many Christians love Hanukkah. I am marrying a Jew and we observe Shabbat more often than not. Yup, this conversation is an insult to intelligent people everywhere. I’m with you….let’s move on!

Tammy - Hi Mel, let’s order up a couple cups of java in red disposable cups and solve the worlds problems, shall we. Would welcome the opportunity. This topic, however, would be on the bottom of the list. As always, wonderful having you here!

Tammy - Some people have more time than brains, although I can’t quite figure out how. I agree, Wendy. Stupid is as stupid does!

Tammy - Lindala! So lovely to see you here. Happy you enjoyed the read! Thanks for that. xo

Tammy - Luke, I’m familiar with the hymn but clueless about the dress.

Tammy - I adore you outlook and thank you for it. I loved Rael’s comment too. Speaks volumes. Conversation is a good thing. Some times these things need to be said out loud! So happy to have you here, Ande. xo

Jane Harms - Finally! Someone willing to tell it like it is. Let us all “get over it” and focus on consequential issues and let go of the inconsequential nonsense. Enough is enough.

Judith - It is about the spirit of the celebration. It has not been commercial free since the Romans got hold of the pagan festival and turned it into Christmas.
Be good to each other and forget about the coffee cups, except to wonder if they are being recycled properly.

Tammy - I could NOT have said it better myself, Judith. THANK YOU! So happy to have you here!

Tammy - It seems to be a time in history well all kind hearted, politically smart minded people are apologizing. We should ALL get REAL! Thanks, Carol!!

Tammy - Thank you, Karen. Appreciate the read!

Tammy - One of the many, many reasons to love America: freedom to make your own choices! And it was Starbucks choice to use a simple red cup. Respect goes both ways. Regarding the coffee, Starbucks isn’t for everyone!

Tammy - Thank you Richard. Appreciate the read!

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