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If kindness is king, why does rudeness rule?

I’ve had one of those weeks. You know the kind; where you just as soon run someone over as look at them. It seems at every turn I have encountered the foul mouthed, holier than thou, the rules don’t apply to me, individual. If there were pills for patience I would have overdosed. Let me […]

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Rick Gualtieri - I’m not a big proponent of violence, but let’s face facts; there are some people in this world for whom a good solid a**kicking would probably do a world of good.

Christi - Sometimes you just gotta go FRIED GREEN TOMATOES?
[Evelyn Couch (Kathy Bates) is cut off in a parking lot]
Evelyn Couch: Hey! I was waiting for that spot!
Girl #1: Face it, lady, we’re younger and faster!
[Evelyn rear-ends the other car six times]
Girl #1: What are you *doing*?
Girl #2: Are you *crazy*?
Evelyn Couch: Face it, girls, I’m older and I have more insurance.

Lori - Pimple on the butt of goodness!! Lol!! Great article!

Tammy - Rick, I couldn’t agree more. I have a list; a long list. Thanks for the read and the post!

Tammy - Christi, I’m still laughing! I remember that movie oh so long ago. One of my favorites. Oh, if I just could have been Evelyn in that single moment in time. So good to hear form you, thanks for the post!

Tammy - Lori, I call ’em as I see ’em. Glad you got a kick out of it. Thanks for posting your approval. It means a lot!

Laura Lee Carter aka the Midlife Crisis Queen - Thank you Tammy, I needed that! I thought I was the only one noticing the end of civility in our culture.

The way I see it, the best explanation is those experiments way back that showed that overpopulation in ANY species leads to competition and conflict.

Did you see this lately:
Dear Karma: I have a list of people you missed!

Tammy - Laura Lee, no, you are not alone in that assessment. If only the strong survive then I better get my butt to the gym! Happy you enjoyed the read, thanks ever so for posting!

Mel Glenn - A needed column. Speaking of movies, I remember John Lithgow saying in “Terms of Endearment” “You’re rude; you must be from New York.” I think it is a national question. We have forgotten civility and manners. You are there
to remind us of our hopefully better natures.

Tammy - Hi Mel, we are all in this together, aren’t we? Your civility affects mine and vice-a-verse. Yes, it certainly does appear that manners have left the building. Unfortunately kindness went with them. Pity for all of us. So very glad you appreciated the read and came here to say so. Thanks for that!

Kellie - Tammy
I am with ya on losing it over rudeness. I think too many parents these days forgot to be a parent and teach manners to their kids. Too busy trying to be best friends to their children.

Maureen - So ‘Fried Green Tomatoes’ – and we need more Evelyns in the world! Thank you Tammy, for the wisdom and smiles!

Tammy - Maureen, the pleasure is all mine. Never a dull moment! Thanks for being here!!

Tammy - Kellie, agreed! Discipline, boundaries and love make good parenting foundations. Add to that compromise, steadfast solidarity and knowing when to be either of those. It’s a tough job, I know. But when you don’t do it, society suffers and people get hurt. Cuz next time I’m likely to run someone over. Kidding….I think. Always a pleasure having you here!

I’ve been called worse

I’ve been cursed at, name called, spit at, high fived with the middle finger and been called fat (ouch!). All by people I didn’t know. But it wasn’t until I was in a heated discussion with a fellow panelist at a writer’s workshop, that I actually took offense when, with a dubious squint in her […]

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Steve - Support from your fellow writers, Tammy? Let me be the first, if far from the last, to offer it—and I hope you’ve brought enough milk and cookies to satisfy the thousands who are right behind me. (Loaves and fishes just aren’t as popular as they used to be…)

Go for it! I’m proud of you!!

Laura Lee Carter aka the Midlife Crisis Queen - Join the club Tammy…I finally had to quit the “Northern Colorado Writers” group up here because I got no respect. But, WHO CARES?

I’m loving my life as a blogger, author and INDEPENDENT THINKER! The future of writing is anybody’s guess, so choose YOUR future and go for it!
BTW, what’s your new book going to be about?

Tammy - Hi Steve, Haaa! If only it were true. You’d be surprised how many writers look down their noses at Indies. Shame on them. Whatever happened to the “atta girl” mentality that we would so willingly share with our colleges? I was published “officially” and was always interested in doing it myself. I’m thinking it’s a higher road to travel. Rest assured I’ll bake more cookies should the demand increase the supply. Thanks for the support and the post!

Tammy - Hi Laura Lee, wow, really? You have to wonder why writers don’t just simply support writers. I mean, what the hell? You are very successful at what you do and if were you, I’d do more of the same. You’re awesome. Thanks for being here, appreciate the post!

Mel Glenn - You go, girl. “The “Indie” label is a compliment, but it is a tough row to hoe. You are in control, that’s good, but Indie books rarely get to be promoted. I know, I have one ebook out, and cost me (!) money.

Scott Morgan - Hooray and huzzah for sticking up for the title “indie.” I LOVE the dying arrogance of the status quo in this revolution 🙂

Carmen - Wow Wow Wow Yea for you. Go for it.
I come from an era that independent minded women were to be seen and not heard and we were not smart. What fools. Go be heard!!
I am forever your admirer and your faithful reader.

Tammy - Hi Mel, thanks! In the traditionally published circle, the word Indie is an insult. Oy! I want to know who you used to create your e-book. You gotta share! And money? Hmmm, how much money? Yes, I see a personal email in our future. It’s always wonderful having you here. Thanks for the read, the rally and the post!

Tammy - Scott, the arrogance is dying … but slowly and with great resistance. It feels a bit like a revolution, although many of the ‘friends’ that are now looking down on me were the very same ones that applauded me when I was published. Go figure. As I said, they can kiss my butt. Thanks for the rally kind sir. It will be remembered.

Tammy - Hi Carmen, I understand the generation of be seen and not heard. Never good advice for a woman, especially. Thanks for being my forever admirer and faithful reader. Every writer should have one and you’re mine! Great seeing you here. Thanks awfully for the post!

Jane Steen - Hold your head up high! I too am proud to use the labels “self-published” and “indie”. I love the control over my books’ future, the fact that I own 100% of the rights, and the direct connection with readers.

And I’ve noticed a change from when I first started telling people I was going to self-publish. Faint contempt has given way to interest and requests for advice as traditionally published friends start looking at their rights-reverted backlist or dream of starting a lucrative sideline. We’re the wave of the future, baby.

Kellie - Ya What a BIG BIOOTCH! has this other writer ever heard of “inde” recordering artists? Why do you think singers, bands etc. create their own label? Gosh could it be that the artists keep creative control and more $$. H’m I would be interested to see this other writers age. If I had to guess not of our generation. Our generation is NOT afraid of hard work, not looking for the easy success story. Good for you my friend!

Ande Lyons - Dear Rebel with a Cause…

I am so proud of you! Congrats on traveling the self published ‘Indie’ road… how rewarding on so many levels.

Imagine if you had self published your first book… mmm mmm mmm! (Of course I had to crunch the numbers… my MBA brain forces me to calculate profit margins on every business I see… such a burden… 😉

In my world of Bedtime Story authors… many of them are proudly self published and have a tribe of happy volunteer reviewers/editors for their books. There’s a support group of these writers who help each other stay on the cutting edge of marketing and social media to promote their books. (It takes a village to raise a book!)

Yes, you’ve been called much worse… so keep on sharing the love your way.

I’m truly thrilled to know ya, Indie!

Your devoted fan,
Ande

Jenny - If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all. – Thumper
I know the person who called you an “Indie” didn’t write this but obviously hasn’t read it either. Heck you don’t even have to read the book, it is in a movie!
Wishing you the best of luck! Keep writing and publish your words the way you want.

Tammy - Hi Jenny, I LOVE Thumper! We could all learn a lot from that little bunny. But back to the subject: I respect all writers. Period. If they are published by a publishing house as I was or if they self publish as I will be. we are all doing the same thing and traveling the same road. Shame on the judgmental people. So appreciate your support and your input. Manners has a place everywhere. Just ask Thumper!

Tammy - Hi Ande, Haaa! I’m a rebel? Yaaa, I’ve always wanted to be a rebel! The road to self publishing is fraught with confusion (mostly due to so many choices) but anything worth having is worth sweating over, right? Yeah, I hear ya, Ms. Number Cruncher, the numbers make me queasy when I think about what I’ve missed. *le sigh* Live and learn and move on. Bottom line is your publishing house won’t market your book unless your are James Patterson or Steven King. You’re on your own and basically work your ass off to make them a tidy little profit. Thanks, but no thanks. With today’s technology and a little ‘smarts’, I can do it myself. Of course that’s what I said when I tried painting my bathroom. But that’s a whole other story. Color me grateful for cyberspace’s introduction of you to me. I am the better for it. Thanks for being here, my friend, and the the support and encouragement. One day, we MUST meet in person!

Tammy - Hi Kellie, yeah, you’re reading my mind. The writer (and I use the term loosely) is my age. Old enough to know better, don’t ya think? Proof that ignorance and bias visit all generations. In my humble and UN-bitchy opinion, we should support each other in our efforts to make good. It really is that simple. With regards to the kindness impaired woman I spoke of, well, it’s hard to argue with stupid. Thanks, sweet Kellie, for your two cents. It was worth so much more!

Tammy - Hi Jane, you said a mouth full there! Owning 100% of the rights and the direction of your book is priceless. I hope you are right and the tide is changing. But no matter, the independent minded will forge ahead. I say God bless us and wish us luck. We are at least trying! Yes, we ARE the wave of the future, and I have a sneaky suspicion that the future is here. Let’s take our courage, our instinct, and our talent and find a better way. Do I hear an Amen?? Great hearing from you Jane! Thanks awfully for the post!

cheryl - So glad to know “they” aren’t going to get you down. YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!! I hope you never lose that “Tammy sass”. love you

Tammy - Hi Cheryl, now “Tammy Sass” is a name I can live with and own up to. Thanks for the vote of confidence. I love knowing that you are always just a read away! Thanks for popping in and posting.

Pamela O'Mack - Great read again, as usual. I happen to love Imdies! I didn’t know that’s what we were called, but I would much prefer to be around and know an Indie compared to someone who doesn’t have the conviction of what they believe in and are afraid to stand up for it, who put their finger in the wind and say whatever, just to go along with one another. We can be polite and not be judgemental of those who offer a different opinion or different way of doing things. I guess, in my generation, I would call Indies, Phonies! I love you, Indie! Pamela

Tammy - Pamela, you are an Indie in your heart. You go against the grain, you don’t care what others think of you, you march to your own tune. Welcome to the pack. We are free thinkers, risk takers, edge walkers. We must stick together and always support each other in our ideas, endeavors and life changes. I’m here for you! Thanks for posting and sharing your thoughts!

Dear God …

I learned a while ago that you have a rocking sense of humor. Something I’m kind of excited to talk with you about when the time comes. You are so big on the accountability thing that I know you will appreciate where I’m coming from. We need to talk. I’ve been meaning to ask you […]

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Joan Cooper - You cheerup my email list so much!

There is no “God”. There is a bunch of them. Life is a motion picture to amuse indifferent gods (plural). Celulite or worse – they just chuckle at us. They don’t ‘care’. I am only a human, and I would never allow what we see on the planet – war, abuse, greed, hate, fat etc etc etc. Ok so there is Free Will – so what is a God responsible for? I think that is actually what you are asking. did I get that right?

Sad as we are taught to expect so much from the great Universe. We are to pattern ourselves after perfection. What did ‘perfection’ do except throw us out of the Garden of Eden?

Joan Cooper

Malissa aka Lupe - I hope I’m in back of you when you ask god all this because I don’t want to be the one to make him mad lol. Hope you get the wings to take you to poblo! 🙂

Tammy - Hi Lupe, no worries, you can stand behind me. I’m hoping God would have a chuckle at my expense and that there would be no temper issues at all. He must have a sense of humor, right? Why else would we be here? (giggle). Thanks for the read and the post!

Tammy - Hi Joan, it was just a whimsical fun piece. I figure God has a sense of humor and I thought I’d talk with him about it. I must tell you that I have never held myself up to perfection. That would be far too exhausting. I only like to have goals that I have a chance of achieving. Clearly, that is not one of them. As always, your thoughts are very thought provoking. Happy to have you here.

Mel Glenn - A VERY funny column. We disassemble by parts and God should have had a better plan. Do you know the poem “The Deacon’s One-Horse Shay”?
That’s the way we should go.
A delightful piece.

Maureen - So – where are these laser treatments available?? I, like Malissa, will allow you to do the talking for me when the time comes. And I’ll take a Fabio please!!

Carole - Everything you said, Tammy, so I nodded and agreed with. You hit the nail right on the head once again, and so pleased I’m not the only one thinking along these lines!
I reckon there’s going to be quite a few of us fronting up…

Tammy - Hi Mel, yes, glad you got a chuckle out of it. It’s a bit of a ‘girly’ piece but I imagined that men would understand and laugh along with us. Yes! God should have had a better plan! Be sure to mention that to him upon your meeting! Love having you here, thanks for the post!

Tammy - Hi Maureen, oh my gosh, I go to have laser treatments on my freckles every year or two. Otherwise I would be one big liver spot. Any beauty spa place does it, but I prefer to go to my dermatologist for the treatment. Yup, stand in line behind Malissa, I shall represent! Thanks, awfully for the post. Glad you enjoyed the read!

Tammy - Hi Carole, wouldn’t it be nice if God was negotiable? I’m just the girl to have a sit-down with Him about matters such as this. Happy to put your name on the list as I represent! Thanks ever so much for the post. So glad you got a kick out of the read!

Suerae Stein - Ha ha! You speak for me as well, Tammy! Thankfully, most of us did receive some sense of humor about the whole aging business, but I have a feeling I won’t grow old very gracefully! This is a great piece and I don’t blame you for putting it out there more than once!

Tammy - Hi Suerae, yes, it’s one of my favorite pieces! I could add so much more to it these days. Perhaps another blog on another day. If we have a sense of humor … we can pretty much get through anything. I think. I’ll let you know. Haa! Thanks for the read, and the post!

Pam@over50feeling40 - Pretty cute, Tammy!! I am pretty sure He is your biggest fan as well!! He created all that beautiful person inside of you and loves your wit and joy!!

Donna Highfill - Tammy – you are FUNNY! And this is so honest. I was just looking at my neck in the reflection of my computer screen and couldn’t believe how wrinkled it was. I was sure some old lady behind me was computer screen bombing me or something. 🙂 Love your talk with God . . .we have many of these. Thanks for making me laugh.

Karen D. Austin - Oh, I can’t believe how my body is changing. I was expecting some of these things to happen in my 60s. Very unfun. I’m starting to adopt the art of deception. I used to be the granola girl, Ms. Natural. Forget that. Give me a girdle, a push-up bra and some foundation! Oh, and I recently moved from mauve lipstick to copper — because copper matches my livers spots better.

Sharon Greenthal - So funny!!! As much as the physical signs of aging can make me a little nuts sometimes, I love being at midlife – especially because there are women like you to connect with.

Tammy - Hi Sharon, glad to be able to give you a giggle in your day. Interestingly enough, this was a rant I had with God one night when I discovered chin hairs. I felt like that was the tipping point and we needed to have a sit-down. I too am hugely enjoying this age. I’m so much wiser (despite myself), calmer and have more fun. It is pretty wonderful, especially when there are fabulous Gen Fab women like you around. Thanks for that!

Tammy - Hi Karen, haaa! You are too funny. Copper matches your liver spots. Ahahahah! Yeah, I expected all of this stuff to befall me, but somehow I always thought I would be a lot older before I had to deal with it. Surprise! Ten years ago I didn’t know what foundation was. Now, I won’t leave the house without it. Still, this age has given me peace and wisdom I’m not always sure I earned. But you won’t hear me complaining about it. I’ve got enough on my plate as it is. Thanks so much for stopping and sharing. Appreciate your post!

Tammy - Hi Donna, happy to bring a giggle to your day. I could have gone on and on but I figure God is a busy guy and I didn’t want to overstay my welcome. Clearly we have lot’s more to talk about. So happy you popped in and shared. Appreciate it tons!

Tammy - Hi Pam, thanks for the kind review. I’ve had many conversations with The Man, and most of them are quite whimsical. Humor is a gift that was clearly given to me so that I would be able cope with all the stuff that life delivers along the way. I so appreciate you popping in and sharing YOUR wit and joy. Made my day!

Sisters From Another Mister - I am totally making a list.
After all, we have these commandments and stuff, where is His accountability? 😉

Beverly Diehl - They ARE still freckles, they ARE, they ARE…

Oh well. Don’t know if I will eve find it in me to be grateful for my cellulite, but I’m working on it.

Since I haven’t kept the receipts. 😉

Tammy - Hi Sister from another Mister, (LOVE THAT NAME!) Oh, yeah, start making that list. Mine gets longer each year. Not sure how it will go over when I present it, but I’m nothing if not tenacious! Thanks ever so for stopping in. Glad you enjoyed the read, I know I appreciate the comment!

Tammy - Hi Beverly, maybe if we say it three times and click our heels? Worth a shot. Nah, cellulite will never be anyone’s friend. And, yes, I’m still purchasing the freckle creams and the cellulite lotion, and keeping all my receipts. I figure I’ll get point for organization. Haaa, never say die! Glad you enjoyed the read, so happy to have you here!

Ginger Kay - I think God works overtime to keep me from becoming vain.

Tammy - Ginger, I understand. I kinda thought he had his hands full with me, but it seems there are many of us out there. Vanity isn’t part of my vocab anymore. But camouflage clothing and smoke and mirrors is. Appreciate the read and welcome the comment. Awesome!

Socially UNsocial

I give up. Where is the sociability? As I sit here looking out the vast window of my local java joint, I’m feeling like a social animal. I look around and it occurs to me that all of us here found our way to our local coffee house to meet up with a little bit […]

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Mel Glenn - I agree – social technology is making us even less social. I feel for you in the coffee shop. We are all becoming portraits by Edward Hopper. Everybody is so afraid (of intimacy) and needs a screen to erect a barrier.
Another excellent and important column.

Tammy - Mel, I love the comparison of the Edward Hopper portraits. Aren’t you a sassy pants!? It sometimes feels as if people don’t remember how to start a conversation. Maybe our reliance on technology has helped us to forget how important the art of conversation is. Thanks for sharing. So lovely to have you here!!

Ande Lyons - Tammy,

I feel your pain! As a mother raised in the 60s where the summer parental directions were ‘I expect you home when the streetlights turn on!’ … it’s SO hard to raise kids these days!

I have had to come to terms with the fact that my teen sons reach out across the Universe via technology… primarily FB and MindCraft and SKYPE. It’s their world… we cannot change it… we can only influence it a little… especially if you have the funds to send them to summer camp.

Which is where my guys go to learn how to live w/o cyberspace… how to get along under someone else’s tyrannical rule… to engage in belly-to-belly conversation with peers… and to play in the sunshine, fresh air and water… what a concept!

Everything today is ‘pay-to-play’ for kids. The art of showing up at the park to shoot hoop or hit the ball has been lost in most communities. (OK, it’s not that bad… but pretty darn close!)

The art of the ‘start-up’ conversation in cafes has been lost, too.

Here’s what I suggest we do: start a cyber-cafe movement… similar to the red hat movement… only we show up with tiaras and boas and huge smiles on our faces for our fellow cafe ubercyber users.

Our mission is to bring conversation to the laptop cafe world… don’t just say hello to your barrista… say hello to your fellow cafe companion, too!

What say you, dear Tammy? Are you in?

Below is a quote I recently posted on BBD’s FB page… I find it apropos for this post.

MUAH!
@AndeLyons

“Smile at each other, smile at your wife, smile at your husband, smile at your children, smile at each other – it doesn’t matter who it is… and that will help you to grow into greater love for each other.”

~ Mother Teresa

Ande Lyons - PS: Oh for crying out loud… I forgot to remove the check in the box … for recent posts at BBD… whoops! :-*

Rick Gualtieri - It blows my mind sometimes at night, the family will be sitting around the living room with everyone a different device. Some days we have to force ourselves to unplug.

Joan Cooper - It all goes back to education. Are we civilized humans or what are we?

In my work, I manage some poorer condos where the women hardly have more than one dress to their names – BUT – they have that Ipod in their hand and they will not put it down.

In a way – it is “control”. The media is a “control”. We should talk about these things and study Hstory more. Not the history of dates and wars, but how people lived day to day. It is so interesting. Real life is interesting. You are certainly right about the blank looks on their faces. Where is the emotion? Aren’t you glad you grew up feeling emotion. Even at my age, I bet I have more emotion in me (especially for a great guy and beautiful music) than any young person today.

We need to talk about these things more. Thanks for bringing it up.

Joan Cooper

Tammy - Hi Rick, I know, right!!? When did it become this way? It’s not how we were raised. I think technology kind of sneaked up on the home front. I remember not to long ago we had a power outage. Nothing worked for hours. We played games, talked, went to a bar and visited with strangers. It was awesome. We need more days like that! Thanks for the post … always a pleasure hearing from you!

Michael Belk @workplace ethics - It seems like the more avenues we have for social methods the less likely we are to communicate.

I believe it is hard to get people to talk unless they know each other.

It has always been that way.

Tammy - Hi Ande, everything in moderation, right? Life is a balancing act. Knowing when to unplug is a big part of it for me, personally. I’m just as guilty as the next gal for staying on my computer, iPad or iPhone too long. Things pass me by; I miss out or lose a chance to exchange thoughts with someone who matters. All of this is not okay. I’m learning. I long for the days when I’d go to the local watering hole and kibitz a bit with total strangers and some newly made friends. I’m hoping our kids get to know that feeling too. Operative word is: engage! Engage with people, places not things! Habits die hard but teaching it to our kids will make their life all that much better. You, my dear, are an awesome lady. It would be lovely to meet you one day. Thanks for being here!

Tammy - Hi Joan, yes, we do need to talk about these things more. Real life and real people are uber interesting! Engaging with them results in so much more than a score on a game or a chat with an unknown entity. Not to mention the skill set that is being lost without the face to face introduction, exchange and gratefulness of the moment. Shame on us. Thanks for piping in. Always enjoy your point of view!

Tammy - Ande, you crack me up! My grandfather would always use that expression: Oh for crying out loud Tamera Jean! Thanks for the memory (giggle).

Tammy - Hi Michael, you are SO right. The art of communicating, and thus, building relationships, seems lost. I remember sending my daughter to Cotillion at a very young age. Be first to speak, look someone in the eye, shake their hand, and engage in a conversation. Priceless! Yes, it’s hard to talk to people unless you know them, but what better way to forge new relationships? Closing the laptop and muting the phone is a good place to start. Facing our fear of speaking first can result in some pretty awesome friendships. So very happy to have you here and so grateful for your post!

Carol - So observant! Seems the more we’ve become tech savy, the more Isolated we’ve become. Love how you write with grace
And humor.

Pamela O'Mack - Great read, Tammy! I think you are on to something. Have you heard of the Eva Restaurant in LA, whose owner is offering patrons a 5% discount to leave their cell phones at the door? It’s a small restaurant (42) people, and the owner just wanted customers to enjoy fine food and conversation with other diners. He said that, so far, he has had no customers that thought this was a bad idea!

Tammy - Thanks, Carol. So, so happy to have your here! I’m not exactly tech savvy but am guilty of spending way too much time on my computer/iPad/iPhone. I am a work in progress. Appreciate your post tons!

Tammy - Hi Pamela, no, I haven’t heard of that restaurant, but I will be visiting it very soon thanks to you. I appreciate their effort to bring us back to good old conversation, a delicious meal and a slow coffee. Awesome! I have to tell you that I almost decked someone the other day who was yelling in to her cell phone for 20 minutes at a restaurant. How could you not think that is rude? The art of the “chat up” seems to be dieing a slow death. Too bad. My iPhone and computer won’t talk with me about my day and help to reason some of the problems away. Something to think about. Thanks so much for posting!!

Kellie - I am a big lover of technology. However, with these great inventions comes the down side … non-social society. Yes I go to coffee shops where not even a smile is thrown back in my direction. The person afraid of engaging in conversation and most young kids don’t even know how to converse any longer. It shows on interviewing skills the young kids very poor interaction or customer service skills … sad huh?

Tammy - Hi Kellie, you sure hit the nail on the head with your comment about how so many young people these days don’t have interaction or interview skills. Customer service? I rarely find it these days and usually when I do it comes from a seasoned (nice way of saying over 50) professional. We are nothing if we can’t communicate with each other. It’s so sad to me that people don’t ‘reach out’ anymore. I talk with peeps on a long elevator ride and sometimes their faces show fear and mortification. Seriously. When computers didn’t exist the world was a more friendly place. Of course we were also in the dark about so many things. I’m thinking the key is balance. Now…all we have to do is find it. Thanks for the read and the post! Always a pleasure.

Laura Lee Carter aka the Midlife Crisis Queen - “We are living in an isolation that would have been unimaginable to our ancestors, and yet we have never been more accessible… in this world of instant and absolute communication, unbounded by limits of time or space, we suffer from unprecedented alienation… We live in an accelerating contradiction: the more connected we become, the lonelier we are.” from the article “Is Facebook making us lonely?” Atlantic Magazine. My answer? YES! http://www.midlifecrisisqueen.com/2012/06/26/hyper-connected-lonely-hell/

cheryl - Well said as always. By the way were you in a coffee shop when you wrote this blog?????love ya

Tammy - Hi Cheryl, glad you enjoyed the read. No. I don’t usually write in public places. I go there to soak up the locals, take a break with my pup, Maddy, to listen and to chat. Harder to do these days since no one seems to want to look anyone in the eyes. Kinda scary in a weird way. I was taken aback a bit with how sad and serious everyone seemed to be. Made me think …. then it made me write. Thanks for popping in and posting!

In the nick of time …

If time is of the essence, why do we spend so much of ours squandering it? I’m pretty sure that if time were a person, I wouldn’t like her. She is unforgiving, relentless and waits for no one.  She is also very sneaky and will take you out without warning or discrimination. Harsh. I never […]

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Joan Cooper - So glad you dropped in.

I think it was Einstein who said that Mankind invented ‘time’. It is not part of the universe. Well, the sun rises and sets, and the moon glows in the dark – regularly. Isn’t that time?

As I age, a year seems like 5 minutes and it isn’t because I am walking slower.

We should study this more. The difference between you and me, Tammy, is that you think of it and can write about it, while I think of it and ………………………….

Joan Cooper

Tammy - Hi Joan, Einstein was wicked smart but no matter how much of a sassy pants he was, time does exist and it seems as though we are always either racing against it or wasting it. Sad. I agree with you, time whisks by so much faster as we get older. Maybe we just value it so much more and never seem to find enough of it to do the stuff we want to do. I have a sneaky suspicion, Joan, that there are very little differences between us. I write, you think. It’s all pretty much the same thing. Love having you here. Thanks so much for the post!

Rick Gualtieri - Too true with all of it. Alas there are some things that an infinity of time can’t fix.

Tammy - Hi Rick, and this time the truth will not set you free. Yup, some things time only makes worse, but that is a whole other Blog entirely! Scooting over to your place for a nice read. Thanks for stopping in.

Stanley DeCovnick - so it does some are better users then others retirement has been one great time if you allow it remember the good the other things

Tammy - Hi Stanley, you are SO right. Retirement? I’m not sure I understand the term (chuckle). If I ever get there, I assure you I will enjoy every single second of it! Walks with my pup, time with my kids, beach afternoons, book fairs, neglected needlepoint, traveling, sleeping in and cuddling, watching old movies and reading good books. Ohhh, it sounds so lovely! Thanks for posting. So very happy to have you here!

Mel Glenn - I love your sensible outlook, esp. that time is not a thief, but a giver. I just wish it would give me more of itself. You always give the reader so much to think about.

Malissa - Hi Tammy,
Time for work, time for school, time for this time for that , I am tired of time, I can’t wait to retire so I can relax and not worry about what time is my next client , I know there will always be the question of what time is it , I just hope I can make the most of what time I have left. 🙂 lupe

Malissa - “Time has a wonderful way of showing us what really matters “lol this was posted on my Facebook page when I went to it after your post. 🙂 must be on everyone’s mind,l. Lupe

Shirlene - I see it this way…. We can either let time seem to rob us of everything that we think we need to squeeze into a 24 hour period or we can look at each day as an opportunity to live each day as if it could be our last. (It could be).

We can spend our day either spazzed out, stressed out, frantic and frustrated or we can look at everyday as a moment in time to smile, pause, find an opportunity to make someone else’s day a little bit sweeter.
We can choose to be, helpful, gracious and share a little love with those we encounter during our day. The number of days of our lives are only known by God, and I want to stand before Him with Him saying to me……”Well done”.
Some of my days are just a terrible wreck, but trying to keep my heart right and looking for opportunities to bless someone else…Now that is where my joy lies and in being able to be thankful for the good things in my life.. That is my reward.

Tammy - Hi Mel, thanks! I try. I think my outlook is akin to the glass half empty/half full. Time is both a thief and a giver. I prefer to concentrate on what it allows me to live and learn from. If I concentrated on the other aspect of it, I’d be cranky (a nice way of saying bitchy) all the time. Love having you on the other side of my blog, thanks for posting.

Tammy - Lupe, I saw something close to that too! We are all of one mind!! Awesome! Thanks for sharing Lupe (aka Malissa). Love having you here.

Tammy - Hi Shirlene, Give and you shall receive. Let us hope so. I wake up every morning saying “today is a new day, a new chance”. Truth. Some days I get it right, others .. not so much. The grace is in the trying.. Awesome to hear from you! Thanks for sharing your caring words.

Kellie - Time. I am a big on time management, being on time and taking time to enjoy your life.

Pamela O'Mack - Great article. So true!! Great blog, as usual!

Kesha, The Uncommon Chick - Hey Tammy, why does it seem like as soon as hit 30, Ms. Time seems to exponentially go by??! Sheesh 🙂

I am definitely enjoying my time and learning to use it more wisely every day.

This also reminds me to take down this stupid clock in my office that ticks loudly with each passing second. Not only is it annoying but it’s only reminding me that time is a ticking way too fast! LOL

~Kesha

Tammy - Hi Kesha, I HATE the sound of a ticking clock. It rings way too true for me. I wouldn’t be near one. Ever. Yeah, remember when we were kids and our parents and relatives would tell us to enjoy our youth because it would be gone in a blink of an eye? Who knew?! And so it goes. The older we get, the more we appreciate the time we have. Thereby goes the old saying “If I knew then what I know now …” If only. Awesome having you here, thanks so much for posting!

Tammy - Hi Pamela, so, so happy to have you here. Glad you enjoyed the read, and thanks so much for posting!

Tammy - Hi Kellie, We are on the same page. Time management sometimes escapes me, but not for long. These days find me appreciative of every single minute. Thanks for the post!

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