 William Shakespeare had it right, at least I hope so. Hi everyone, I want to share with you that I’m changing our blog’s name to ….. drum roll, please ……. WittyWomanWriting. Clever, eh? I hope you will agree that this blog by a different name is still as awesome. Rest assured it will still be the […]  Story of my life, for a while anyway. Do you ever feel like you keep trying to force a square peg into the round hole of life? Hello? Sometimes no matter how many rules you follow, how good you are, how hard you try, how many classes you take or how many late hours you […] 
Just what I needed to hear. 
U r right on point as usual my friend! Kel 
Tammy: I like your line: “Compromise is necessary. Knowing when not to is salvation.” That has been the crux of the matter for me. Often in life we find a very thin line between courage and stupidity. That is when I go inside and check with my inner wisdom. When I turn off my rational mind for a short time and listen carefully to this unique resource, I always get the answer that works for me! – Laura Lee 
It has been said that most men (and women) live lives of quiet desperation. We often perfer to settle rather than rock the boat. Not good IMHO. I’d rather take a chance, take a risk, and be happy or be sad but be better off knowing I tried. Go forth and rock the boat. yeah. 
Sue, we have a perfect relationship … it is just what I needed to say! So happy it spoke to you. Thanks for being here!
Kellie, I am rarely right, but God bless you for saying so! So very happy to have you on the other side of my posts.
Laura Lee, I couldn’t agree with you more, my dear. Knowing the difference between courage and stupidity is a whole other blog and I am in the process of putting the finishing touches on those thoughts. But knowing when not to compromise, well, it’s golden. As always, thanks for being here.
Tricia, Boat rocker is my middle name. Loved your post. So right on. And, I’m with you all the way, although I do wish I had been better at some of my risk taking. All in the learning curve, right? Keep doing what you’re doing, you’ve got my respect. Thanks for posting! 
Not always easy to do but so true. Time to let go of what doesn’t work and try something new. Now all I have to do is figure out what! 
I’ve always said that “perserverance” is my middle name – and it is – but you’re right, it’s also about recognizing when it’s time to let go because “the fit” isn’t right for you. Sometimes we shouldn’t be where we’re at because it’s NOT the right fit, and it’s about trusting your instincts enough to know….it’s time to move on. Thanks for YOUR insights!
Jeff, you’re right, of course, finding your passion and purpose is ironically a lifetime pursuit…if we are lucky. And I’d like to think that my special someone is reaping rewards for taking a chance on me. I know I am. So happy you are here. Thanks for posting.
Kris, timing is ALMOST everything. Letting go rarely comes easy. Most believe it’s better to stay with the devil we know that to venture and face the unknown. Not so. Venturing saves us if our courage allows it to speak to us. My two cents. Clearly we are sisters from another mother! So gald to have you on the other end of my posts. Untill next time. 
This is just what I needed to hear. I’m going through a rough patch with someone I’m dating and like you said it may be time to take another road. It really shouldn’t be that difficult.
Phoenix, Only you can be the judge of that move. It might be a case of your judgement waiting for your courage to catch up. Every woman alive knows what this is like. This needs to be about YOU. Let me know how it all works out. Thanks for posting – happy to have you here. 
Your post reminds me of two old quotes that are among my most favorite: “Postponing a decision, or deciding not to decide, is a decision made, in and of itself.” And, “See the happy moron? He doesn’t give a damn. I wish I were a moron; my God, perhaps I am!” Far too many people choose to linger in the black hole of self doubt and inaction. The best days of my life have been when I’ve chosen to risk, and have then moved forward with action on my decision. I may still be a ‘moron,’ but at least when I risk, I’m a moron that’s moving forward! Great post, Tammy! Keep moving forward! Hugs! 
Tammy, I would love for you to be saying all of this in front of an entire crowd of women/men/teens. It is difficult for a lot of people to realize or focus on their own self worth (ah hem). Many of us simply don’t know where to begin. You always seem to have the words my ears need to hear! xoxo 
Tammy, I love this statement: “…Compromise is a necessary quality. Knowing when not to is salvation…” I have to think about that myself ever so often – when I should be compromising. I have learned a lot from past mistakes on doing so and, though balance is the word of the day, I tend to be on the other end of the spectrum these days 🙂 I was talking to a cousin of mine just today who really needs to read this post and I will be sending it to her. She’s going through some things right now with learning what makes her happy and your post is a good one to start the healing process (at least I think so!) 🙂 ~Kesha
Sid, I have never heard those quotes before, I just love them. I have most often chosen the side of risk. Big payoffs and big upsets. Still, I never wanted to wonder what might have happened if I had tried this or that. I’d much rather be contemplating how amazing it was to live through or how much better I will do things next time. Moving forward seems harder to do as I get older. I’m not sure why, maybe it’s the having been “burned too many times” routine. A survival instinct. So, I feel the fear and do it anyway. Onward and upward for us, my friend. Thank you for posting.
Jenn, Thanks for those thoughts, I’m working on it. As far as having the words you need to hear, it might surprise you to know that they are the words I need to hear too. Thinking it, saying it, writing it … then living it. The hard part is believing it. And I … believe … in you. Now, it’s your turn. Thanks for posting, Missy.
Kesha, there is no more flattering thing than to have your work shared. I’m thrilled. I would love to have your cousin in the fold. In being here, I hope she gains a little wisdom, a few laughs and a great sense that she is not alone. You’re right, balance is hard to find and even harder to maintain. Compromise is the crust of our relationships, including the one we have with ourself. Compromise nothing when it comes to being who you know you are. Great having you here, thanks for posting! 
Thanks a lot for being the lecturer on this area. We enjoyed your own article quite definitely and most of all cherished how you handled the issues I widely known as controversial. You happen to be always quite kind towards readers much like me and help me in my lifestyle. Thank you. 
Hey Tammy, great post here! We should definitely have the right mindset when it comes to certain challenges in life. Very very important! I believe the challenges in life are not meant to break us, but make us. That’s a totally different view on things and it makes a challenge more of a test for us to become stronger individuals. Great post and keep it up! 😀 Thanks for the inspiration!
Pj, I’d love to be a stronger individual. Some days I am, others, not so much. It’s a bit like my belief that I should have buns of steel for the many times that I walk up and down the stairs. But I don’t, they are still mushy as ever. I also believe that I should be pretty close to the strongest person I know, having weathered all kinds of life’s “lessons”. But alas, I’m still learning. Always the student. We are all but students and one of the greatest lessons I’ve learned is when to walk away. Tricky business. Grateful to have you here, thanks for the post!  Sometimes things happen that define us forever. September 11, 2001 was one of those days. This flag was raised over the World Trade Center ruins and was hung from the damaged Pentagon; a powerful symbol of patriotism, survival and resilience. Tattered, dirtied and fragmented, it was still there. And so are we. I think we […] 
Beautifully said, Tammy, as always. And you’re right, it is personal. I was so proud of our country after that horrible day. It was the one and only time I can remember that I felt we were united with a common purpose. Thanks for writing this. It’s hopeful, compassionate, and positive. A needed message. ~ Suerae
Suerae, yes, it is ever so personal, and I remain hopeful and positive. Sometimes hard to do in these troubled times. So happy to have you here. Thanks for your comment. 
Thank you Tammy, truly well said! 
Again perfectly stated. Every year at this time I become a little uneasy and every day I thank God for being here. 
Thank you Tammy for writing we are still standing indeed! 
I wish our hearts were full everyday of the year and it doesn’t have to take such a tragedy to bring us together and remember what a beautiful country we live in. Keep the spirit going!!!! Love you Tammy!
Nicely put Tammy
We are still standing. Tall and proud and being the best we can. Every day is new and we don’t know what it will bring….but we have changed and are still changing and growing.
Back at ya, Sweet Sue. Thanks for being here.
Anniversary’s are tough. Truth is, we should probably be a bit uneasy about this stuff every day, and, as you say … thank God for still being here. Good to hear from you.
Marilyn, From your mouth … to God’s ears. Thanks for the post! 
I am very impressed with your writing. I hope to get to know you better. My life as well as thousands changed that tragic day. As we all go on in our lives, as I say in my Book , Strive On! Jesus will is there for us & for them. Well said Tammy.
Deeann, great to have you here and thanks for the kudos. I usually have oodles of humor in my posts. Nothing funny about that day. Nothing. Happy it spoke to some. Thanks for posting! 
In the good times and in the not so good times I am very proud to be an American.
Jenny, I don’t believe it is arrogance or false pride, but this land where you and I live, despite it’s shortcomings and faults, is the best the world has to offer. I find myself, like you, proud and grateful everyday. Thanks for your resounding post.  I loved the scrawny cartooned Popeye with his mantra of “I am what I am”. Frankly, there are days I’d rather be what I was. As we count our skill-sets, most of us overlook the ability to say “to hell with it”. There is tremendous value in that skill-set. People who can accept themselves just […] 
“Here’s the deal. I think that we should live up to what we are, and if it’s not enough, change what we can and love what is left.” What more can be said. Sage and Savvy advice. Thank you.
Your words hit home! Sometimes it is difficult to live up to who we are because we are much more than we think we are. Sometimes it is difficult to accept all of the things we are because some of them are flawed and we can not change them. But, to make the best of what we have and who we are to the best of our abilities is the best we can do and hopefully would make our “Spinahc King” proud. Good article.
Judith, thanks for the appreciation. Speaking of which, appreciate you being on the other side of my blogs. Thanks for the post!
Jeff, It’s a tough world out there, to be sure. To be expected to do more than our best is a rough piece of luggage to carry through life. On the other hand, being the best we are is vital to our happiness. Flaws mean nothing. They are but bumps in the road. Our inner self esteem means everything. That is what’s hard to grasp on to. Great having you here. Thanks for posting.
I’m working on it! Geesh! I know, you know this hit home for me. My favorite part of this entire blog is “Here’s the deal. I think that we should live up to what we are, and if it’s not enough, change what we can and love what is left.” and when you give me the go ahead I am stealing it and sharing it. My least favorite part? You still not knowing how amazingly beautiful you are.
Acceptance releases everything to be what it already is! Every human being in the world only wants to be SEEN, APPRECIATED and ACCEPTED for exactly who they are. It is magic when this happens! -Laura Lee
It sounds to me like you are living up to who you are. A beautifully written message and one that I struggle with as well. I try to tell my kids that they are born with certain gifts or talents, that are different than others gifts and talents. And ignoring, or not nurturing these gifts is like insulting the gift giver. It’s not living up to their full potential. And they also have to accept that there are certain things that will not be their strengths, while others will excel. Just like your message. And it’s a difficult message to convey. Well done! ~ Suerae
Suerae, it IS a difficult message, which is why most of us learn it ‘the hard way’. I know people who never have gotten the message of acceptance. It’s often a one day at a time kind of thing. Your kids are lucky to have you for their mom. Life’s lessons are better learned from those who love us. Thanks fo being here, appreciate the post.
Laura Lee, well spoken words, thank you. Magic is a good thing, especially when it comes from within. Happy to have you here…thanks for the post!
Jenn, You are too funny. Any similarity to living persons is simply a coincidence (wink). It’s wonderful having people who believe in us. It’s life changing when we accept our gifts and declare our intents with actions. Life changing. Sadly, some lives are lived completely without the realization of their own greatness. I shudder to think. As always, I’m thrilled to have you on the other side of my blog. Thanks for posting, Missy. 
Tammy, first, I am loving the purple and red color scheme here…gorgeous 🙂 Secondly, I ditto Suerae in that it seems you are doing a fine job in loving who you are now! The question (for ourselves) remains: how long will it take for us to do the same? I am 33 and have been thinking like Popeye for a long while now (old soul, remember?) LOL However, like you, I know wealthy and beautiful people who are the most miserable of them all! It’s shocking to me but hey what do I know 🙂 This statement is hilarious: “…know an abundance of people who are not even close to the legends they believe themselves to be in their own minds…” ROTFL…We must know the same people! Catch ya lata, ~Kesha
Kesha, So happy to have you here. Someday we must meet and compare notes. Maybe we share a friend roster, but truth is there are so many peeps who think so much of themselves it’s hard to keep a straight face let alone keep track. Thanks for the post, Missy.  Take a seat, let’s have a chat. So, how are ya? What’s new besides the old famine, war, plagues and pestilence thing? How are the kids? Can I ask you a personal question? Why do you always look so grumpy? I mean, you’re doing what you want, wreaking havoc throughout the world, and instigating lies, […]
Oh Tammy! What else can I say but AMEN!
Just perfect Tammy! 
Well Tammy, I’d love to hear the story about how you came to write this piece. Don’t take me wrong because I think it’s one of the best you’ve ever written. And, all you’ve written is pretty awesome. Amen
P. S. Sorry for the misspelling….i type faster than my brain thinks! xxooxxxoo!
Sue, you have just given me my new saying: “Damn it to the devil”. Love it! Yikes to your story. Allow me to be one of many who say out loud that your ex is a louse. The devil is in the details. Not telling your own kids you are marrying and having them find out on FB, well, that’s a pretty big detail. Thank you for posting. I always love hearing from you…misspellings or not.
TK, there is always a story behind every post. This one in particular. Thanks, for the good review, it felt like a warm hug through the computer. Back at ya. Thank you for posting!
Jenn, Amen to you, my sister from another mother!
Hey Tammy, I especially have to be nice to him….you know us people are ending up in his hood. Also, I think he’s here visiting the Coachella Valley!!!!!!!
Brilliant my friend! Yes,there is always a back story to every story posted on a blog…my gosh would love to hear the front story that brought you to write this blog over coffee some day! I think I would wet myself in laughter listening!
Well, they say the devil is in the details and you certainly detailed what was on your mind! Nice job….although you leave me wondering what you’ve experienced lately!! ha
Boy I sure would hate to be the devil on the other side of your wrath – lol! LOVE this post and you’re so right – we really don’t need any help with all of our devious dealings here on earth! Thanks for another great one. 🙂 ~ Suerae 
What a fun & clever post. Thanks for making me smile this morning. And I’d love to hear the story behind it, too. . . .
Marie, always happy to make you smile. Yup, there is quite a tale behind this post….it has attached to it two horns and an angry dispostion. Haaa! Thanks for the post!
Suerae, we really must meet in person one day. Wouldn’t that be lovely. Thank you for the honor bestowed on me with the Versatile Blogger Award. I’m thrilled. And, no, you wouldn’t want to be on the other side of my wrath. Come to think of it, neither would I. Thanks for always being here.
Kris, the devil IS the details which often conveniently get left out. Lots to share on this post, but I think that’s for another day. Thanks for your post, always appreciated!
Kellie, I guess my fabulously sarcastic side shines bright here. Without humor, I would be a very grumpy girl. Coffee sounds nice, but there shall be no wetting! Thanks for your post.
Marilyn, The Coachella Valley certainly feels like hell at times, at least to this pansy who prefers the cooler climate that Denver has to offer. Alas, it does have it’s beauty, the least of which is you. Thanks for posting, so good to have you here. 
Too funny! I thoroughly enjoyed it and I thoroughly agree! Genius post. Happy Labor Day!
Robyn, Thanks for the kind words. I don’t think I’ve ever been referred to as a genius before. Clearly an oversite. Haaa! Happy you enjoyed it. Hope to see you back, and thanks for the post. 
I am really inspired with your writing talents and also with the format on your weblog. Is that this a paid theme or did you modify it your self? Anyway keep up the nice quality writing, it is uncommon to look a great blog like this one nowadays.. |
Maureen - I’ll follow where ever you choose to lead! And you most certainly are a sweet voice of reason that I love to depend on!!! Think the new namre is an excellent choice – muvh more current & apropos. Keep them coming!
Jenny - I too will follow, look forward to every writing you do. Love feeding the fish also.
Laura Lee Carter aka the Midlife Crisis Queen - Change is good, so are you! Feeling free to change is what midlife is all about! – Laura Lee
Kris Henderson - WittyWomenWriting? I just love trying to say it 3 times f-a-s-t. And then I laughed at myself. Hey, cheap entertainment I guess. Of course I’m going to follow you. What would we do without the sweet demure voice of reason that we’ve all been use to!!
Suerae Stein - I promise to still show up and I too think you are a witty woman. I like the name and am excited for the change! Looking forward to seeing more 🙂 ~ Suerae
Sue Cove - I will follow you!
I think that is a song or a chruch song…but hey us women stick together! Great site!
You will always be my forever friend!
Can’t wait to see you next! Rub to Maddy.
Love… from another witty woman!
Marcia Nichols - Tammy,
They say change is good….as I move on in life, I am beginning to believe, more than ever, that this is a true statement. So…..keep on keepin’ on, and I’ll be right there with you!
Love, Marcia
Tricia Linden - Obviously you’ve been able to redefine yourself before, and now it’s time to do it again. Bully for you. Who wants to stay stagnat in one place FOREVER….. I’ll look forward to seeing your new sweet smelling rose bush blume in the sun. Keep shining.
Enjoy always, T
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Tammy - Debra, great to have you here! Thanks for the kudos.
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