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Then we live there. A lot has happened during my month long (it was really 5 weeks but who’s counting?) hiatus, and we have some catching up to do. So let’s get to it. Jon Stewart is leaving The Daily Show (he never consulted me) and he and his wife, Tracey, are purchasing a large […]

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Kathleen O'Donnell - I said the exact same thing about elastic pants and their relevance in my will to live. But, bought them I did. Bah, menopause!

Trump. P.T. Barnum running for President. Not much different than any other politician. I’m a cynic. He says he will change his hairdo if he wins. So even he must know he isn’t going to win!

Anne Louise Bannon - Welcome back! Yep, there’s lots going on. Thanks for helping us to laugh about it.

Tammy - Thanks, Anne Louise. If we don’t laugh, we’ll die crying!

Tammy - I didn’t know Trump said that, Kathleen. Pretty funny stuff. Losing my will to live has been my catch phrase for the last couple of years. Seems to say what my moment feels. Ugh. Am also feeling a ridiculous kindred to Aunt Bee these days. God help me. By the way…loving the pants!

Tammy - I’ve heard this kind of story before. Summers here can be killer. Hoping I survive my first one without too much whining. I sure do love the rest of the year here. The people here are awesome. Yup, lots of grist for my blog. Fortunately for me, I don’t give a damn who I might offend. Love it or leave it … a motto I live by. So happy for the read and the comment Judith. Thanks!

Tammy - I like YOUR version better, Kim!

Tammy - I SO agree, Haralee! Thanks for the validation. Happy to be back!

Laura Lee Carter - Ah yes, isn’t moving glorious in our 50s and 60s? We finally move into our foothills home the end of this month, and that will be the last move for us ever! Hurray!
LOL about the elastic waistband pants! I’ve been wearing them for a while now…yes my waistline changes that often and that fast lately. I’m hoping settling down in our new home will help me with my new and improved diet! Yeah right!

Natine - Totally enjoyed reading your re-entry! National news not so uplifting, but your take on personal issues entertained me, and entertaining me is one of my top priorities. Don’t feel bad about the elastic-waisted pants; yoga pants are just old lady pants passing themselves off as trendy athletic-wear. 😉

Barbara Hammond - Glad you are settled and back to blogging. I know I couldn’t take that heat, but if you can I’m happy for you. I think Trump will provide more people with more laughs than any *ahem* politician in history!

Carol Cassara - The great thing is that it doesn’t matter how long we are off the grid, shit happens and we have even more when we get back. Congrats on settling in!

Sheryl - Hot in the desert without shutters, giving your neighbors a thrill? Surely better than all the depressing news these days.

Lisa at GrandmasBriefs - Blech on the desert. Too hot! Colorado beckons!

Trumpster… chumpster! Another BLECH!

I have no doubt you’re rocking the mouthpiece. Good luck with the grinding!

Glad to have you back in the blogging world.

Joan Cooper - Two things……

1. I would like to hear if the Hispanic community has an organization that helps its’ own illegals ? Why hang all that on the American people who can hardly hold their own in this ever more expensive world.

2. I have one objection to ‘same sex’ people. They like to MOCK. The idea to take an ancient word like ‘marriage’ which means man and woman for better or worse, instead of calling their lifestyle something else. That’s all… one cares what they do, but we do care what pot all are lumped in. Also it is really not a matter for courts. It is a social issue. Too bad they had to rub everyones’ nose in their ideas. How tolerant.


Doreen McGettigan - Welcome Home! I am so happy to hear you are settling in but yikes those temps. My husband lived in Arizona and said don’t believe what you hear about the dry heat. triple digit temperatures are hot.
I hope your blinds get there sooner than later.

Tammy - Hi Shirlene, sunscreen and hats are a big part of my everyday now. Good tips! Moving sucks no matter where you go or how far. All I can say is that the next time I move I won’t be lifting a finger. Not. A. Finger! Done with that! Be sure to let me know when you are in SoCal!

Tammy - Hi Laura Lee, if there is a new and improved diet, you be sure to share it with me. I feel like if I ever moved again (this one made my 13th) it would be a decade too soon. Beyond exhausted. About my new elastic waistband pants …. I secretly love them! Good luck in your move. So excited for you!

Tammy - Hi Natine, so happy I was able to entertain you. My daughter would always tell me that I’m a party all by myself. I always thought it was a compliment (probably not so much). Haa! I’m loving my old lady pants but still can’t get over the stigma of it all. Meanwhile I’m thinking about going back and buying another pair. Good God!

Tammy - Hi Cheryl, I’ve missed you. One day we really MUST meet IRL. Thanks for the validation, I needed that! I’m still not sure any amount of jewelry (am I really saying this out loud?) could enhance a floral mumu. As for the pants … I’m secretly loving them.

Tammy - Hi Barbara, happy birthday! I’m not sure yet if I can take it either, but I’m giving it all I’ve got. I love this place to pieces 8-9 months out of the year. Summers are rough, and I’m a pansy. A wilting pansy. As for Trump, I foresee good blog fodder. Silver linings!

Tammy - Hi Carol, boy, does it ever! Happy to be back and happier still to be unpacked!

Tammy - That’s one way to look at it, Sheryl. I’m still laughing! I guess it’s all pretty funny … in a pathetic kind of way. so happy to have you here!

Tammy - Lisa, happy to be back! I miss Lone Tree every single day. Except maybe those days I’m watching the news and it’s having the blizzard from hell. Because I’m now a SoCal pansy. Trump is a sideshow. The real problem is, he doesn’t even know it. It’s always something!

Tammy - I tend to agree with your husband, Doreen. Until lasts week when the temps were high but the humidity higher. Thought. I. Was. Going. To. Die! It truly makes a difference. But he is right…heat is heat! I’m hoping our shutters get here fast. I’m sure my neighbors hope so too. *embarrassed*

Tammy - Hi Joan, I’m sure there are many Hispanic organizations that offer legal aid. I think we have to agree to disagree on the same sex issue. Just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean it should be illegal. Equal rights run across the board. We cannot be a country that withholds rights against someone because of their skin color or sexual preferences. In my humble opinion it is absolutely a court matter. If we left it to society, we’d still have lynching’s. Fairness is a train we all need to ride. Happy to hear from you. Hope all is well in your world.

Joan Cooper - We disagree. Same sex whatever has never been a legal matter – it has always been a social matter. Their desire to join the word marriage to their world is to mock – nothing less.

They could have come up with another term and obtained legal rights such as inheritance etc, just as well and no fuss. Instead they overstepped and the liberal majority of the court upheld them. So sad.

I am too revolutionary for your polite blog.

I would love to hear what the Latino community is doing for its’ own.

We need to forget “politically correct” and see behind the motives. We are experiencing these days, the effect of the Civil War which was NOT to free slaves. The government left them to starve. If the government caught them walking over the Mason/Dixon line in Kentucky, the government took them back to slavery ??? The Civil War was a giant step by politicians to break down States’ rights and nationalize a rich nation.

Joan C

Joan Cooper - And why legalize someones’ sexual preferences ??? What does that have to do with governing?

Who cares what they prefer. They just love to “mock”, Tammy.

Haven’t you ever seen their parades ?

I really do not want to know anyones’ sexual preferences….anyones – that is their business. Who cares ?

Joan C

Carolann - Yep! You’ve highlighted all the high points of the news with one or two exceptions. It’s overall pretty depressing, but the news generally is. As for elastic waisted pants…well…I gave into those a while ago and I must say I’m pleasantly surprised at how much I love them! Not my jeans though…I won’t dare go there! Not yet anyway lol

Yvonne Jasinski - I hate watching news mostly because of how it is delivered. Too much show not enough substance. I prefer your style!

Carmen - Hi Tammy,

Missed you!

Extremely proud and happy that my MEXICAN GRANDMOTHERS, both paternal and maternal had the courage to travel from Mexico to the United States of America during the Pancho Villa times.

Thru their courage, my family and I would not have such a wonderful life.

And furthermore, Mexicans are not the only IMMIGRANTS! And neither are they all criminals, etc. etc.

If this is the way Mr. Trump feels re: Mexicans, obviously he is a discriminating individual. And the rest of the immigrants (from all over the world) take note…this man would like to be the next President of this marvelous, wonderful country of ours.

Thank you Tammy.

Tammy - So well said, Carmen. Immigrants helped to make this country great. There is no one who can deny that. Trump showed his bigotry, but worse than that…he showed tremendous ignorance. No worries, the American people are too smart to vote him in. The more he talks the better it is for the country. How else would the people know what he stands for? Papa would always tell me that if I wanted a job well done, hire a Mexican laborer. Their work ethic is amazing, they show up rain or shine and they get the job done without complaint. So far….he was right on the money. The funny thing is, if we take the time to look back into our history, most of us would find that we too came from an immigrant family. I too and proud and happy that your grandmother ventured into the unknown. My life has been richer for it.

Tammy - Thanks, Rosalind. I think I love you!

Tammy - Haaa, I think I prefer yours as well, Yvonne. Stop by any time and we can dish to the dirt together.

Tammy - I’m SO happy to know that so many of my peers have purchased elastic waistband pants! THRILLED. I thought I was the only one. It felt so much like a “sell out” but I do love wearing them. I fell like I’m walking around in my jammies. So I’m now wondering…do they come in any other color. Funny how quickly comfort takes precedence. for the record … if I found elastic waistband jeans, I’d be all over that like white on rice!

Tammy - Joan, I don’t believe for a moment that gays wish to mock us. It’s NOT about legalizing sexual preferences. It’s about equal rights. It’s not up to states, businesses or individuals to determine what rights they will lend to someone who is different from them. That is called BIGOTRY. An ugly, ugly word. It’s clear that you feel very strongly in your beliefs. I leave that to you. But know this, America was built on the idea that all men are created equal and should be given equal rights when it comes to all legal aspects. Period. No where does it say “unless you happen to love the same sex”. I know many wonderful gay people who contribute a great deal to our society and our world. I wish for them to share in the equal rights that marriage offers. I stand with them in celebrating this landmark decision. This country is stronger for it. My opinion, and I’m entitled to it.

Carolann - I had to pop back in and reply to your reply about the jeans with elastic waistband…if you ever find a great sure to let me know too! LOL

Tammy - That’s a deal, Carolann!

Jeffrey Davidson - Welcome back!

Yes a lot has happened during the last 5 weeks. Hopefully you will adjust to your new residence and get past the worst weather portion in style.

As always, you have a fun and interesting manner in the way you approach various topics.

Don’t look forward to the florals and pearls. It doesn’t have to happen.

Don’t worry about the shutters. If your neighbors can’t enjoy the view then let them look the other way.

Trump, another story. He looks intelligent, but then the speed of light is faster than the speed of sound. Once he opens his mouth you hear why he is not as intelligent as he looks.

Your feelings of tolerance are to be applauded. Even though I agree with you, equal rights is equal rights. What is to say that if your religious beliefs are different then you shouldn’t be allowed to express them? My minor disagreement is that it should not have to be “gay rights,” but just equal rights for everyone. The word “marriage” may have been a traditional one but traditions and times change and evolve.

I try, and hopefully succeed, to judge people as individuals based on their character, honesty, trustworthiness, etc. If you are the same, color, religion etc. as I am but are dishonest, insensitive, etc. then I choose not to associate with you.

I don’t like or dislikes groups of people based on race, religion, sexual orientation, etc. but rather, I like you because of your character and what you as an individual represent.

As always, keep writing the way you do and don’t change it, unless your are evolving!

Tammy - You are SO right, Jeff! It shouldn’t have to be considered “gay” rights. It should just be “rights” equal for all. In a perfect world. We can only hope and strive for it. I’ve come across my share of homophobes (hate that word) who justify their beliefs on the “traditional” phrasing. Bunk. It’s not the phrasing that offends them. It’s the same sex orientation. Not everyone has an open mind or an open heart. Acceptance of that fact is necessary in order to deal with it. I agree, traditions evolve. Thank God for small favors! I’m with you…I judge people based on their character and how they treat me and others. Life becomes pretty simply that way. And pretty honest too. Laughing at your take at my neighbors. Thanks for that!

Joan Cooper - Good point, Jeff. I don’t entirely agree that they only care about equal, but let it go. WWW does not like dispute so I bow out.

Tammy – take me off the mailing list. Being barred from answering on WWW about a topic is censorship. I don’t want to be a part of that.

Joan C

Tammy - Hi Joan, dispute is always welcome. It livens things up around here. I have NEVER barred anyone from saying anything and I resent the implication. It is simply untrue. All comments are uncensored and live. I will happily honor your request and remove you from our mailing list. Have a good week ahead.

Karen D. Austin - Well, I am glad to see that you didn’t forget to pack your sense of humor in the move and glad to see your wit wasn’t damaged at all in the process. All my best to you as you get to know the neighbors without or with blinds.

Tammy - Hi Cynthia, SOOOO happy to see you here. It’s been ages. Congratulations on the new family addition. It takes on a whole new meaning now. Nice to know that our country is moving forward despite ancient prejudices. Miss you!

It Seemed Like A Good Idea At The Time ….

Change might be good for the soul but it’s a bitch on the body and the mind. New beginnings are awesome. Painful … but awesome. I’m still waiting for the awesome part to kick in. Three weeks of being submerged in bubble wrap, 19 rolls of packing tape, 84 boxes and at least a ton […]

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Kaye Curren - Dear Tammy,
We don’t really start a new life because we always take ourselves with us to the new place – and it appears you have. (Just Kidding – I would too.) I’ve been trying to move to Myrtle Beach home of surf, great writer college, watercolor week twice a year, and wonderful retiree hideaway for several years. The thought of doing what you are doing is the reason I haven’t.

Although I live on the east side of town in the lower rent district, I panic if someone suggests I move. Everything has its perfect place and it took a long time to get them there.

Good luck with your move and hurry up because I am planning to find the bucks to have you critique my writer’s presence online.

T.O. Weller - Tammy, our planets must be in alignment! It’ll be my turn next week! Only, we’re moving to a forested acre of land on a lake rather than the desert.
We’re currently in packing mode, dividing items into “storage”, “sell” and “keep by my side” piles. When we leave our home next Thursday, we too will be homeless, after which we will be “camping” on our new land, in a new town, while the house gets finished before our eyes.
While I pack, I have also donned a “project manager” hat, scheduling and budgeting for the various trades, making design decisions and all the while hoping no one lets us down (haven’t we all heard the renovation nightmare stories?).
I’ve already learned that we will be Internet-challenged, so I’ve mapped my route to the local library until I can sort that one out. I also find myself stocking up on everything, like I’m moving to a disaster zone (I’m not sure why, but maybe it’s a survival instinct?).
I am sending you a big, long hug … and raising a glass to new beginnings. 🙂

Kathy @ SMART Living - Yay! Congratulations Tammy! I know that you are in the midst of the move and that can seem daunting to anyone–but you will survive! And you’ve picked an AWESOME place to live so the outcome will definitely be worth it all. And one thing I know for sure is that you will so-o-o appreciate your new home once you get moved in and settled. Sometimes it takes a big shakeup like you’re going through to really, really appreciate the outcome. I’m looking forward to meeting you in person here in the desert…and if you need some advice about happy hour I’ll be happy to share what I know! ~Kathy

Risa - Oh, Tammy–I hope the time will pass quickly so you can move on and begin the next chapter. I also hope you won’t look back (except to write about it!) and will just embrace the new home with a giant sigh of relief. Beep, beep!

Adela - Yee-Gads! The things we take for granted. I want a TiVo for my radio. How do you do it?! Soon it will just be a memory.

Tammy - Hi Kaye, I feel your concern… big time! I know this story will have a happy ending. Looking forward to it … any day now! Myrtle Beach is a beautiful local. You must muster up the nerve and DO IT! Would love to work with you on your writer’s presence! It’s my thing!! Keep your fingers crossed for me that the time will just fly by! So happy to hear from you!

Tammy - Oh, T.O., hand on to your hat. It all sounds like such a worthy adventure! And a forested acre near a lake, well, it doesn’t get better than that! Go to Verizon and buy a “hot spot” for your internet. We would be dead in the water without it. I’m clinking glasses with you, my friend … to new beginnings! Hugs!

Tammy - Hi Kathy, I didn’t know you lived in the desert. What town? We will be settling in LQ but presently reside in PD. It’s a small place, I don’t think it takes more that 25 minutes to get front one end of town to the other. A BIG adjustment (thankfully) from Thousand Oaks and L.A.! YES, we must absolutely meet up when I get my head out of the hole in the ground. I’m looking forward to it. Happy Hour … here we come!

Tammy - Rosa, no looking back for this gal! Not my style. I spent a few years looking in the rear view mirror… done with that nonsense. I’m so looking forward to getting settled. It just seems so far away. One day at a time! Thanks for chiming in…. love hearing from you!

Tammy - You are so right, Adela. I never thought I’d miss my TIVO. I mean talk about spoiled! I don’t watch much TV but I do have my program addictions which I TIVO. Not any more. Think I’ve missed all the season finales. Damn! I wish that was my only gripe. This too shall pass. Can’t wait for that! Thanks for popping in and sharing!

Joan Cooper - NEVER NEVER DOWNSIZE. You did not ask me.

Downsizing was my own worst disaster. In a life full of mistakes that was the biggest one. If I had not done that, I would be a millionaire living in a one story large house instead of a 2 story with my crippled legs. What was originally bought for $185,000 is now worth a million. How I remember those sunsets over the Santa Monica mountains.

Lotsa luck and byeeeeeeewe


Laura Lee Carter - I hear you Tammy!
But try sitting in that same holding pattern for a YEAR while all the “builders” in dumb-fuckville try to find their asses with both hands!
Now you see what we’ve been facing in southern Colorado for almost a year! Excuse my French, but I have really had it!

Ruth Curran - It does get easier and actually the not knowing where you will land, once you embrace it, is a bit freeing — or so I told myself for a very long time :)! Breathe, be kind to yourself, and keep your animals close and all will be well!

Tammy - Hi Joan, no, did not ask you. But we had our hearts set on it. We are moving to a lovely one story home in a gated community with all the amenities. Very excited! Except, of course, for the heat. Not a fan of the extreme heat. UGH. Steven has told me how lovely your home was and how he wishes you had stayed there. So, you are both on the same page. You are not alone in making mistakes throughout your life…. we are all there with you. I’m hoping our move does NOT fall into that category for us!

Tammy - Oh, dear, Laura Lee! A year?! I’d be out of my mind. I understand French and speak it fluently (giggling) How close are you to completion at this point? My heart goes out to you big time. I’m so looking forward to 2 weeks from today!

Tammy - Hi Ruth, it’s all one big adventure – ready or not. Being kind to myself is awesome advice. Amazing how hard we are on ourselves. Bah! We will all stick together, furry and otherwise. One big happy family!!

mel glenn - Dear Tammy,
Having NOT moved in 37 years, I forgot what a hassle it is. Your displacement,while annoying,is only temporary, and I admire your courage in moving in the first place.
And why are you making this move?

Sharon Greenthal - I am surrounded by boxes and bubble wrap as I write this! We are moving into a construction zone – we won’t have a kitchen for quite a while – but we are very excited. Good luck with everything!

Carolann - It’s such a chore to move. Me and the hubby said we both gonna die here lol it’s that exhausting. It’s fun too as you said new adventures and that part is exciting. I also love the idea of redecorating a new home too but for now…I’m good lol. Good luck and rememnber..this too shall pass 🙂

Tammy - Mel, we are making a new and fresh start for OURSELVES. We love the desert (not so much in the summer) and thought to ourselves “why wait until we want to retire, let’s live for the moment and make it work”. And so… we will. Moving to a one story home (HOORAY!), beautiful open floor plan, guarded gate and lots of amenities. Let us hope and pray that we have many years of happily ever after. By the way, Steven had lived in that home for 22 years. NO picnic sorting and moving!

Tammy - Sharon, here’s to new beginnings (holding up a glass of champagne)! It is beyond exhausting and is quite tedious but truly our future prospects are exciting. Good luck with all that lies ahead. I know it will be wonderful!

Tammy - Doreen, such sage words, thank you! YES, I will rest up for the boat load of unpacking that awaits me. Getting excited!

Tammy - Thanks, Carol Ann (my computer wouldn’t acknowledge your name as one – grrrr). You are right, of course, this will pass. It just seems like it’s been such a LONG haul. Excited for the future AND the decorating fun to come! Woohoo!

Sheryl - I know just how you feel – we did it two years ago and at the time, yes, it’s upsetting in many ways and tough, too. But you will be so, so happy once it’s all settled…I promise.

Tammy - Sheryl, moving is the pits. So is sitting in a hotel room with your pets and just waiting, waiting, waiting. BUT, you are right … it will all be worth it once we are settled in our new home and new life. Pretty excited about that!

Barbara Hammond - You’re living our 2014! This time last year our city house was sold and all that ‘stuff’ put in storage. We moved into our beach house while it was being sold and when that happened we still hadn’t found our ‘forever’ home in Cape May, so that stuff went into storage and we moved to a rental short term. With 2 crazy dogs, I might add.
When the final move finally arrived it was head down into renovation and plaster dust for about 2 months. ALL of that was worth it!
You will be so happy when it’s all settled and done. I know the stress, but it’s worth it! Hang in there. I’m toasting you now!

Lisa at GrandmasBriefs - Oh, yeah. This would make ME crazy, too. I got all tight in the chest and feel a little bitchiness coming on just by reading this. HUGE hugs to you and best wishes for permanency to come your way soon!

Toni McCloe - I had to stay in a hotel room once for more than two weeks and it was just as awful as you described it. There was nothing homey about it. Good luck Tammy. The best is yet to come.

Tammy - Oh, THANK YOU, Barbara. I love being toasted to! Your move sounds uber complicated. My hats off to you! Happy to hear that it was all worth the anxiety. Thanks for sharing it with me!

Tammy - Haas! Thanks, Lisa. I battle the “bitchies” and the tight chest thing daily. This has been the longest move in my history and I’ve had a dozen to call my own. I’m so over this waiting business I could scream…. or…. grab a cocktail and chocolate brownie bites.

Tammy - Thanks, Toni. I love the reassurance and hope that you are right on. I brought with me our 5 live plants and have strewn then around the hotel room to help make it homey. No such luck (I couldn’t pack them in the storage or they would die). No matter what I do, it’s a hotel room. If I didn’t have the animals I’d be out (in this heat) running around checking places out. But noooooooo! Argh! Better days ahead! Thanks for sharing!

Nancy Hill (@Nerthus) - I’ve lived in the same place for 25 years. I can’t imagine moving, or living in a hotel with my husband, dog and two cats… for any length of time. You are a STRONG woman, Tammy!

Tammy - Thanks, Nancy. Becoming less strong by the minute! We celebrated our one week anniversary here last night doing laundry with two paper cups and a bottle of wine. Good times!

Lois Alter Mark - Moving, like all change, is hard. We moved across the country 16 years ago and, although we never would have imagined living on the West Coast, it was one of the best things we ever did. Wishing you lots of love and strength and patience!

Sue - I always think about how much I want to move and looking forward to a new area, but as I get older I know I will miss my home ground when we move. Thanks for sharing your experience and wisdom along the way to a new life.

Mary - Moving is never easy! But, I’m sure not far in the future this will be but a distant memory.

Tammy - Thanks, Estelle. Counting the days… hours…. minutes! Someday we will look back at laugh at all this. Just not today. Haaaaa!

Tammy - Sue, I miss a lot already BUT am looking forward to forging new memories and new haunting grounds. Mostly… just looking forward to getting out of this hotel! Pretty sure the pets are too! So happy to have you pop in! Thanks for that.

Tammy - From your mouth to Gods ears, Mary. Appreciate the read!

Kimba - “I’ve come to the conclusion that leaving a life behind is never easy, no matter how anxious you are to start a new one.” Agree, it can be difficult. First things first: Happy Hours in the Palm Desert area: Wish I was there to buy the first round.

Tammy - Hi Kimba, you are a wonder! THANK YOU! These recommendation are awesome. I knew about a couple of them but happy to have the list. Woohoo!

Harriet - This is really exciting! It is great when you move forward to a new place, a new life! Moving process is always pretty stressful but as long that it’s over you will forget the stressful moments and you will remember just the excitement! :)I wish you all the best! Greetings, London Removals Ltd.

Dear Daughter, there is something I want you to know …

 I’d give anything if you could remember how we have grown together through the years. The 3 a.m. feedings, the changing of thousands of poopy diapers, cleaning vomit stained clothes, and not going out to a restaurant for over 2 years. I call them the days of learning that happiness came in very small and […]

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T.O. Weller - Tammy, how do I tell you how touching this is without sounding absolutely sappy?
Reading this triggered my memories of motherhood and raising my son, with many of the same questions, challenges, and triumphs. But mostly, the love.
It’s a bittersweet feeling; I miss those times and yet I’m also thankful for where we are today … and looking forward to all that is to come.

Marilyn tichauer - It’s hard to see with big tears in my eyes………..Just Beautiful!!!

Kim Liebman - That was beautiful Tammy, I hope you have the Mothers Day that you deserve!


K. Lee Banks - Thanks for sharing this very touching post and tribute to your daughter! I have four adult “kids” – including three daughters – and one of those daughters is now a mother herself of my two beautiful granddaughters.

I would love to borrow this quote, and attribute it to you:
“When I celebrate Mother’s day, I celebrate you. Without having been your mother, I would have missed out on some of life’s happiest moments.”

Have a wonderful Mother’s Day!

penpen - you’ve captured exactly how i feel on mother’s day–that it’s a day to be thankful I have the children I have and, whatever the challenges of time and distance, the loving relationships we have. The feelings of appreciation go from me to them.

Tana Bevan - *sniff* *sniff*
*sniffle* sniffle*
Congrats! (Sounds like you will soon acquire the “Grandma/Nana/Grammy” moniker?!?)
*hugs* *lots & lots of hugs!!!!*

Joan Cooper - A truly beautiful Mothers’ Day memorial.

No one has your way with words. Not even me with my horse.


mel glenn - What a lovely, lovely love letter to your daughter. She SHOULD know, or at least be aware of, all the work you did. Children leave, that’s the way of things. I am sure she loves you, but not as much as you love her. She should take this post and have it framed.

Tammy - T.O., sappy is highly under rated. As moms, our memories get triggered all the time. To miss those days with our children isn’t to say we don’t love the lives we live now. Days of long ago hold whispers still….and I am always listening. So happy you are here. Truly.

Tammy - Sweet Marilyn, so glad you are on the other end. Thank you for your words. They mean a lot. Not the first time we have cried together. Probably not the last. Love you. xo

Tammy - Hi Kim, thank you. I hope the same for you, my darling friend. May we ALL have the Mother’s Day we deserve. For each of us it’s different, but it will always involve love, acceptance and gratitude. We stand together, you and I.

Tammy - Hi K. Lee, of course, use the quote in good health! It’s clear that you have many blessings. Have a wonderful celebration of you and your children. As my daughter would say: every day is Mother’s Day.” Yes it is.

Tammy - Penpen, you are so right….whatever the challenges of time and distance, loving relationships endure forever. I am so glad you dropped in. Appreciate the read and the caring comment!

Tammy - Hi Tana, not acquiring any such moniker for the time being. Didn’t mean to imply it. Simply that one day … whenever that day is … she will understand everything that is as yet unexplainable. I’m sniffling along with you and sending lots of hugs right back at ya!

Tammy - Hi Joan, my dad would call me a wordsmith. Sometimes it works, sometimes not so much. So happy you enjoyed the read. I happened to know your heart felt words are beautiful … especially when it comes to your beloved horses. xo

Tammy - Hi Mel, you are SO right, children leaving IS the way of things. Of course she loves me, but I sincerely doubt that any child could love their parent more than their parent loves them. That is the way of things too. Missing what we had is a blessing and a curse. But it doesn’t mean for one moment that I don’t love and cherish my life right now. Color me VERY blessed indeed. Thanks for being here. I love hearing from you. Hope all is well with you, my cyber friend.

Cheryl Nicholl - My God I’m tearing-up. Just beautifully ‘put’ my friend. I also have seen my children grow and leave the nest, only to land a thousand miles away. I often times wonder what it must have been like for all the mothers that watched their children get on a boat and cross great oceans without any communication and never to return. Mothers are amazing.

Lisa at Grandma's Briefs - So beautiful, Tammy. The post AND your lovely daughter. So exactly how I feel about each of my daughters. It’s hard to put into words how very happy moms are for kids who have grown and gone, how very proud… but how very much our hearts long to connect more often, hug more often. Sweet, sweet post.

Tammy - Hi Cheryl, mothers ARE amazing! I’ve often wondered the same about those mothers who willingly gave their children to strangers so they might survive. I can’t even think about it … my heart starts to palpitate. A mothers love knows NO bounds. Always happy to have you in my neck of the woods. Thanks for that!

Tammy - Lisa, I think it’s in our nature as moms to always want more time and sharing with our kids. God certainly has a sense of humor to ask us to give everything we have, everything we are for 18 years, then BAM!, let it all go. Let’s just say that when I pass a mother bird in her nest feeding her new brood I try to warn her about the pain of having to teach them to fly and fell the nest. They never listen. It’s probably better that way.

Mary - So beautiful, thank you for sharing! You have inspired me to write a letter to my first born. Happy Mother’s Day, Tammy!

Cheryl Shaw - Happy Mothers Day! We are lucky to be mothers and have great kids. We want the best for them and will always love them and worry about them, no matter what.

Tammy - Thanks, Helene, hoping it was a most wonderful Mother’s Day for you.

Tammy - Hi Mary, so happy to have been a bit of an inspiration. Writing to our kids is a keepsake of love. I adore the idea. Hope it was a wonderful day for you. So appreciate you stopping by ad sharing with me. Truly.

Tammy - Hi Cheryl, you said a mouthful. Yes, yes, and yes. Hope you had a great Mom’s Day. I know you deserve it!

A Very Personal Post – The Other Side of Fear

Twelve years ago I was broken. I had just ended a 29 year marriage, sent my only kid off to college, and was left broke and unemployed with the cats and the dog to feed. Not exactly my life plan. I was alone for the first time in my life and filled with fear. I […]

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Judith Eton - So glad I read this, I am about to be alone for the first time ever in my life, as my husband wants to move to South America and I can not face another move. I will have to start over and I am scared. It is nice to read about a happy ending even if it is a long time in my future.

Tammy - Hi Judith, happy endings do happen. Especially for people who least expect them. South America is a BIG move. I hope you both can work it out. I’m pulling for you!

Lynn Tarson - I have always had a special place in my heart for Steve and am so happy he has finally found THE ONE! I wish you both health, happiness, and long lives together.

Marilyn Tichauer - Even though I know the “Story”, along with my morning coffee your story brought me morning tears

Suzanne Gray - I love this story sooo much! It’s raw, honest and romantic. Thanks for sharing it. Reading it made me happy.

Donna Ainsworth - Thank you for sharing this wonderful story! You give hope to all the single (past 50) women who sometimes want to give up on the dream of finding love again. Bless you! And Congratulations! you deserve it!

Kim Curtis - Loved this! Your story was filled with risk, resilience and love! Tribute to the “next” in everyone’s life who is open.

Tammy - Thanks, Lisa. It’s so nice to be thought of. I hope you make it to SCORE’S Expo in June. Love to see you there. Hope all is well on your side of the fence. So great to hear from you!

Tammy - Hi Evette, thanks for that. We still look at the picture you so gracefully monogrammed for us. Beautiful! I’m SO happy to know you are on the other side of my little blog. *smiling*

Tammy - Hi Lynn, I kinda have a special place in my heart for him too. From your mouth…to Gods ears! Hope to see you sooner than later!

Tammy - Oh, sweet Marilyn, we are sisters from another mother you and I. Some stories warrant tears. We share that in common. I love you, and am happy we spent some time together this morning via my little blog. xo

Tammy - Thanks Suzanne. I kinda like it too. It wasn’t easy getting here but the journey was well worth the reward. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. It means a lot. YOU made me happy today!

Tammy - Melanie, are you sure we’re not related?!? Goosebumps are awesome. And so are you! So happy to know you through the pages of life’s walk! Hugs!

Linda D'Ae-Smith - Love this! Very inspirational.

Tammy - Hi Donna, it felt good to share my story. All of us single women past 50 should hold on to the hope that life will treat us right and we will find our happiness. Finding love again wasn’t on my radar. In fact, at the time, it felt like an enormous inconvenience. That was my fear stopping me from opening up. If we face the fear, happiness can’t help but be headed our way. So happy to hear from you. Thanks for that!

Tammy - Thanks, Kim, so happy you enjoyed my story. Yup…there was a boatload of risk and many people advising me against the move. Resilience and love go hand in hand in our quest to find the things that matter to us. It takes courage and vulnerability, to be sure. But once fear is pushed aside, ALL things are possible. Thanks so much for being here and for sharing your comment. Truly!

Tammy - Laura Lee, life IS grand! But it must be said that my path here was paved with a river of tears and bucket full of fears. Life calls upon us to grow up and face our demons. When we do, we are rewarded with goodness for the taking. So happy for us both!

Tammy - Hi Joel, so wonderful to see you here on the other side of my little blog! Thank you for the kind words. The feeling, my friend, is quite mutual. You are a delight and a pleasure to know, and I am grateful for the opportunity! Awesome having you here!

Tammy - Thanks, Linda. I was shooting for gut honest … but inspirational is pretty awesome too! So happy you enjoyed the read.

Tam Warner Minton - Love it. And I love the truth you put so well:The truth is, life offers no guarantees. Risk is part of the bargain. Knowing when to jump in or run from, is a crucial life skill. If there is anything I know for certain, it’s that nothing is for certain.
That is one lesson I have learned along the way.

mel glenn - Dear Tammy,
What a super romantic story, how lovely!
Who says one can’t have a crush for 40 years? Have you read, “Love in the Time of Cholera”? The main character, Florentino, carried a touch for his love for over 50 years As a romantic,
you should read this South American classic.
A very sweet column

Barbara Hammond - What a heartwarming story, Tammy! So happy for you both. We never know what the master plan truly is, so we have to be open to fate. After 38 years of marriage I was one day away from leaving when he was diagnosed with lymphoma. Trauma, coma, you name it happened and when we came out on the other side we discovered we still loved each other. Never looked back!
Enjoy the next adventure!

Tammy - Thanks, Mel. I never quite thought of it as romantic, but I can see that now. Nope, never read that story but you can be sure I will be picking it up. As always…thanks for being here!

Tammy - Oh my gosh, Barbara, that is quite the story. Blessings to you, my friend. You are right … NEVER look back!

Tammy - Thanks, Tam. Just a little wisdom I picked up along my travels on loser lane. I live by it still. Appreciate the read and the comment!

Lisa at Grandma's Briefs - Love, love, LOVE this! Such a fabulous testament to listening to one’s gut, taking the leap, risking it all and coming out on top. And happy. And in love. You’re an inspiration. Cheers to the rest of forever together!

Sue Cove - Love this…I keep thinking my knight is still out there….when I meet up with him…I hope he is like your Stephen. You so deserve happiness and love!

Tammy - Thanks, Pamela, the day is coming. My story was so sad and broken. I took the time and energy to fix my life again and no sooner had I done that, that Steven walked into it. My blessing to be sure. We are lucky to have each other …. and a friend like you. xo

Tammy - Thanks, Linda. SO glad you enjoyed my story. If it inspired … even better! Appreciate the read and the sharing!

Tammy - Hi sweet Sue! We ALL deserve happiness. I found that when I stepped aside and let life happy with me instead of at me, it all kind of worked out. I’m pulling for you and hope that until you find your knight, your happiness is your company. xo

Nancy Hill (@Nerthus) - What a wonderful story. I think of the “usua”l story of women divorcing and falling into poverty. Nice to know that doesn’t have to happen.

T.O. Weller - Thank you for sharing your story Tammy. “Happiness can always be found on the other side of fear.” I LOVE that … and needed to hear it.
Our house will have a SOLD sign on the front lawn any day now and we’re leaving everything we know for a beautiful piece of lakeside property and a house to be finished before the snow flies (in Ontario cottage country).
Just when I didn’t think anything could scare me anymore, something does. But, it’s our dream, so it’s time to face the fear and find our happiness. 🙂

Sue - caught my attention on FB and I am so glad it did. Loved reading your happily ever after – take a chance- story.

Carmen - Hi Tammy,

Great share, just great!

Life is special as you show us …. it is!

Keep up the great reads.

Linda Lichtman - For Our Tammy…
Your dreams are our dreams…to keep moving forward until there’s an arm around a shoulder – to hold it – to love it – to know the DREAM is real – that’s what we get from you – daring, loving friend…xoxoxox

Tammy - Hi Nancy, it was certainly a fear of mine. A big one. That … and how was I going to go through life alone. Daunting, scary and sad. But, when you give yourself time to cry it out then move forward with positive intent…good things will come your way. Happy you enjoyed the read!

Tammy - Hi T.O., dreams are always scary! What would be the point of them if they didn’t scare us? It’s because we are moving out of our box, going where we dare to dream is a better place. I’m SO happy for you! I’m betting it will be wonderful and you will never look back. Such are dreams come true! Appreciate the read!

Tammy - Hi Sue, I’m glad it did too! I was a take a chance story, thought I never really thought of it that way. Calculated risks are still risks! Gambling only counts when you have something to lose, and I had plenty. Luckily, it all worked out beautifully. Thanks so much for popping in from FB. So glad you did. So loved the Home tour.! It was awesome!

Tammy - Hi Carmen, good to know you are still out there reading! Comforting! Love knowing you are there. xo

Tammy - Hi Linda, thank you so much for your kind words. Means a lot. You are right, of course, we keep moving forward hoping that good things will find us. It’s hard to remember that dreams can come true when you are so broken in heart, mind and spirit. Suffice it to say it took some doing and daring to keep myself above water. I know I’m not alone. That’s why I wanted to share my story. Against all odds love has found me again. And I will be forever grateful. xoxo

Shirlene Vitale - I love your story! I am so glad that I was involved in unfolding of it with you. I remember the nervousness you had when you flew out to see Steven the first time. You came back very hopeful of a great friendship again and possibly more.

When he came here to see you it was another time of butterflies and nervous excitement. Fun to see you find him again. When you left Colorado I knew I would miss you. But I also knew that the future with Steven would hold many adventures and wonderful experiences for you both!!

Glad to hear that things are great between you and that God must of have a plan for you both. Blessings and much happiness my friend!!! And yes… I still miss your face. I may have to make a trip out to see you both soon… Enjoy Life dear friend!!

Cheryl Shaw - Hi Miss Tammy———loved your blog AND the pictures!!!!!!! You and Steve are an adorable couple who look so happy——–how exciting to be moving to a new house. WHEN IS THE WEDDING??????? I do sooooooooo miss you but am also so glad to know you are happy with your forever guy

Tammy - Hi Shirleen, SO WONDERFUL to hear from you! Yes, you had a front seat to all that was unfolding. And, yes, I was a bit nervous before flying out to see Steven after 40 years. Who gets on a plane to see an old friend after 40 years?? I guess I do. I feel so blessed and so loved every day. Color me grateful. Miss your face too….and you perky little smile of yours. Happy to know you are still on the other side of my blog. Thanks for that!

Tammy - Hi Cheryl, I do so miss you too but am ever so happy here with my forever guy. So much going on … am a packing fiend these days. Not sure when the wedding is … but it’s coming! Miss and love you …. lots. xo

Bryce Warden - What a great story….happy for your happiness. Lot of wisdom in this piece.

Tammy - Thanks, Bryce. So happy to have shared it with you! Appreciate the read and the comment!

Freda Schneider - This is such an amazing story! It sounds like a movie script or a novel story! It is true that you never know what awaits you around the corner! I am happy for you… it take a lot of courage to do what you did! You are a very strong person, I am sure! It is very important no matter what happens to find strength to move on with your life! Thanks for sharing! Your story is incredibly inspirational!

Tammy - Hi Freda, sorry for the delayed response…better late than never. Thanks for your kind words. I’m very happy that it spoke to you. I wouldn’t say that I’m a very strong person. I would say that I am just strong enough. Baby steps…always forward! The great thing about the future is that is always waiting for us. So appreciate the read and the comment!

Does Your Primal Fear Stack Up?

Global warming scares the hibbie-jeebies out of me. I picture polar bears drowning, the air unbreathable (thank you China), the oceans polluted beyond repair, nukes being tossed over by Russia, and Kim Kardashian as first lady. Dear God Almighty…just kill us all now.

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T.O. Weller - Right now, there’s a spider parked in one of the top corners of my office. That’s where they like to go in this house, because they know I can’t reach them without getting a climbing device.

My back is out right now so I can’t even do that and I have to wait for my husband to get home. But I’m watching it. If it moves, I’m bolting as fast as my back will allow.

Don’t even get me started on clowns and politicians! (Putting them together in one sentence is no accident.)

Ellen Dolgen - I am right there with you on most of these, sister! Clowns – They don’t upset me, but omg they scared my daughter half to death.

Scott Morgan - I fear stupid people with power too. Oddly, almost everything you fear here is a fear of stupid people with power — politicians, parents, pitbull owners, Kim Kardashian… what a world!

Barbara Hammond - I’ve never been afraid of anything I could squish easily, like a spider. But rodentia is a whole other thing! And, I believe we should all fear politicians!

Tammy - T.O., you made me laugh. No….putting politicians and clowns together is NO accident! Hahahahahaha. Yeah, I learned a while back that spiders have nine lives. And you don’t want to be the one trying to kill them…they remember. Eeeeeeek!

Tammy - I never thought of it that way, Scott, but by George, you might be right. I feel a wee bit badly about the pit bulls, because I know so many great owners that love and adore their pits. I’m told that there are amazing pets to have. But then you have the off the wall crazy dog owners that go the other way. Yup….duly scared! If there was someone I could pay to get insure that we would never have to suffer a Kardashian again, I think the money collected would be HUGE. What a world indeed, my friend!

Tammy - I’m right there with you, Barbara. If only we had a spray that could rid us of deceitful, self serving, bullshit artists called politicians. Wouldn’t that make the world a better place?! Why don’t I tell you how I really feel, right? *giggling*

Tammy - It’s so weird, Ellen, fear of clowns defies logic. Yet….it’s pretty terrifying! Always happy to be on the same page as you! Thanks for popping by!

Joan Cooper - “Never Say Die” – that was a James Bond movie wasn’t it.

I don’t think we were made or conditioned to handle so much information as is thrown to us nowadays. From Spring Break to ISIS, it is too too much. I want to live in my little working on perfection world, but it seems the world is determined to intervene.

There are solutions but no one is talking about the main one – make the banks accountable. ISIS is a bunch of murdering criminals – who handles their money ? Who handled Hitler’s money ? we know – Switzerland. Criminals should be in jail or an island somewhere – not working with bankers.

Oh I could go on and on, but not as entertainingly as you do it.


Joan Cooper

Howard Roper - Tammy after reading this I have rediscovered my own fears. Many of which you wrote here. However, I will replace some with others and add to what you’ve already explained. Please forgive the lengthy comments:

Evil: On the planet, such as ISIS, scares the hell out of me. Anyone that can kill women and innocent children for ignorant reasons, well that is just plain and simple PURE EVIL. It will grow like a cancer until it is wiped out, period. It is my number one fear, but I stand ready to fight if it should come to that. The Patriot in me.

Global warming: Not afraid as Mother nature will take care of the planet and is always changing as she has done for eons. It is a liberal deflection of the real problems facing us today and the real need to solve them.

Stupid people: They are everywhere. They seem grow like a plague each day. They believe whatever they are promised, told, or hear. Many work for fast food chains or Wal-Mart and are young adults. Which leads me to believe the future of our great country is DOOMED.

Bigots: People of this country who want to kill cops, riot, burn the American flag, promote racism, push their religion, undermine the Republic, make promises they never intend to keep, believe only their lives matter, liberals, gun control idiots that want us to believe guns kill people, illegal aliens, just to name a few. I absolutely detest. So if that makes me a bigot, then so be it, I’m a proud bigot.

Spiders: I hate them, stomp them, and attack with a vengeance of complete destruction of the species. They creep me out with there eight eyes, eight legs, and especially those with their ability to jump. No mercy, just whack them, like we should do to ISIS.

Pit Bulls: Don’t own one and never would. Been bitten, and attacked by supposedly sweet adorable Pit Bulls whose owners made assurances to me and lied. The thing is I love dogs, but this breed needs rethinking. Don’t like them and won’t hesitate to show them no mercy (no explanation needed).

Politicians: Like Pit Bulls I have no use for them and they really scare me.
They can either lead this Republic to greatness or destroy it. Present administration as an example. They will break the law as lawmakers, with very few that see criminal charges, and make millions of $$$ off us the tax-payer. They seem proud of their ability to pull the wool over our eyes, make laws unknown to us, give themselves raises, have eternal 100% retirement pay, don’t pay into Social Security or have to follow the laws we have too. They strut around like they are most important people on the planet. They don’t care that they were elected by the people for the people. They still (steal), line their pockets with lobbying monies, lie, cheat, point fingers, and spend billions of $$$ on stupid stuff instead of using it for needed stuff. The amount of money they spend on election campaigns is amazing, which are basically nothing more than negative attacks on their competitors. They make campaign promises they have no intention of keeping, but rather pushing there own personal agenda on the poor citizen who voted them into office. They are nothing more than self-serving, self-righteous, money mongering, tax-payer gargoyles. Who needs them?

Clowns: No problem. Just punch them in their red ball nose and show them you mean business. Never hire one for your child’s birthday! They are obnoxious, uninhibited, men who like to play with children in makeup to hide their faces. Why? I think there’s a problem here.

I will add two more:

Elevators: Especially cram-packed elevators. I literally have panic attacks and will get off one if it becomes to full. I seem to always get pushed to the back as if they know I’m terrified and wanting to see me become frozen and blue from holding my breath. I need room and my private space is MINE. Don’t invade it! I’ve been known to yell out “Let me off I can’t breath or there will be some serial killing taking place very soon” which seems to do the trick as a large path is created (I think I could hear bones being crushed) to let me off at next floor. If there are than 2 people, I will not get on and will wait for the next one “Going Up or Going Down.” And God forbid one gets stuck for some unknown reason. I cannot even imagine what I would do and I pity those around me. I will even take the stairs if there is too much elevator traffic. I might huff and puff “Going Up”, and sing “Going Down” but at least I have my space. And the voice that announces everything along with the music reminds me of a funeral. I prefer the dong sound for the floors and as the door opens but not closed. Music, come on let’s ply something that is uplifting like rock and roll to take my mind of the elevator ride…

Iran with Nukes: Goodbye to Israel and Us. Nothing more needs to be said or explained. Just bend over and kiss your a** goodbye!

Thanks Tammy, my dearest friend for letting me share my views. Hope all is well, God Bless you and your family as well as our Republic… Love ya!

Tammy - We definitely DO get way too much information thrown at us, Joan. Which is why I systematically chime out from time to time. Money makes the world go ’round, and it funds the most unscrupulous beliefs known to mankind. Now there is an oxy moron for you … man kind. I wish!

Tammy - Oh, my, Howard, that is a mouthful! I just LOVE it when blogs spur such wonderful emotion and thought. Next time I write about this subject, I think I will consult you first. Can’t tell you how happy it makes me to know that you read my blog. Yaaaa me!! Adored your contribution, thank you for that!

Billie Jo - Thank you Tammy! I feel better about my self now:). I fear ignorance in people, so stupidity and bigots should fall under that category. I wish ignorance would be a painful affliction, then we could recognize them more easily because they would walk around writhing in pain. And flying, I also fear flying.

Tammy - Billie Jo! So good to see you here. Wouldn’t it be fabulous if ignorance was accompanied by pain or nose growth, like Pinocchio?! I never had a problem with flying but these days I absolutely abhor it. It’s like we gamble every time we board a plane. You never know if the next wanna be shoe bomber is sitting next to you. I won’t rest easy until they find or explain Malaysia flight 370. Beyond worrisome and creepy. By the way … I love you more!

mel glenn - Dear Tammy,
My turn? Insects of any kind. Global warming is too far away and politicians are too near. Evil actions whether personal, political or religious frightens me because there are no answers.
Yours is a good column because you follow the
writing dictum: “Write that which makes you the most vulnerable.”
You are both strong, honest, and vulnerable.

Janie Emaus - I’m always afraid of something coming up the toilet and wiggling into my butt! Irrational? Yes. But most fears are! Oh, and the hair in food, too. Unless it’s my own.

Sheryl - So funny! You’re not alone in some of these fears. I totally get the clown, the hair and the pit bull. What about parking garages? That’s a biggie for me.I feel like once I go in, I’ll never find my way out.

Susan - Can’t say I agree w/all your fears but the politician view is definitely mine as well. I fear what kind of a world my grandchildren will grow up in! All our politicians care about is lining their own pockets & passing laws the rest of have to follow but they are exempt! Wish we could get a ground swell movement to let them know their exalted status is unwarranted & put fear into them if they don’t change.

Tammy - Hi Mel, you’d be surprised how many men are afraid of insects too. Warms my heart. I remember screeching at the site of a spider the size of a Buick and asking Steven to kill it. His response “you kill it!”. Haaaa! I think Evil should have been on my list. Clearly my list is growing! Thanks for the read and the comment, my friend.

Tammy - Tam, you totally crack me up. I have no idea why you remember that (a secret phobia perhaps?). I loved that show! And if I swallowed hair I’d probably have to be hospitalized. Just saying. Thanks for being here and making me laugh!

Tammy - Oh, my gosh, Janie, my list just grew by one. I saw a video of a spider in Australia (as big as a Volkswagon) who hid under the lip of the toilet. They are accustomed to flushing before they sit down. The spider fought like hell but finally went down with the flush. Only to emerge seconds later back into the bowl. Oh HELL NO!

Tammy - I’ve never had a problem with parking garages, Sheryl, but something tells me I might after today. Especially the huge ones in downtown LA. If you don’t take a picture of your parking spot, you may never see it again!

Tammy - It’s CRAZY how many people are afraid of clowns, Helene. Makes me feel almost normal. Fabulous seeing you here!

Tammy - I so agree with you, Susan. SO agree. If there is a ground swell movement…I’ll be there. It’s disgusting what these politicians have done to our system and to the very people who voted them in. Something has got to change! So fun to have you here…what a pleasure!

Ande Lyons - External Fears… they’re easy breezy to handle. I see a spider, I get Darling Husband to kill it. Scary people I keep away with my special ninja aura shield. Flying… thank goodness for deep breathing and beta blockers.

Internal Fears… now those are very tricky and need special handling and attention. Running for the hills or using energetic ninja warfare only makes them louder and stronger. I’ve learned it’s best if I give them a voice… allow them to share why they’re scared… and then I give them a hug and thank them for teaching me more about myself and life.

LOVE YOU Goddess Tammy Bleck – MUAH!!

Carolann - Oh my I would have to agree with you on a few of these fears too. Spiders, I hate them all. And hair in my food yikes! Yep, you are very normal when it comes to the fears department for sure. I’m not a fan of clowns either! Funny post. Thank you!

Cheryl Shaw - Amen to every word expressed by Howard Roper——–I did get stuck in a crowded elevator for about 2 hours in Mill Valley CA—–loved those firemen who set us free!!!!!!!!!!

Shelley Zurek - Fears of yours. Spiders do not lick themselves so sprays DO NOT work. You must spray the house to get to the bugs they are there to eat. Then they die.

Fears of mine: yep..hairy spiders

carmenkane - Love your posts!!!

Fear persons in power such as:

Government auditors. Most of them have worked for years and years; are not certified accountants; nor CPA’s and know more than all the accountants and CPA’s in the world. Above all have the power to make decisions on matters they may not understand or be knowledgeable on. Therefore, you are WRONG!!!!, unless you have the resources to hire TOP GUNS and take them on. Most likely if these auditors know this…you are right!!!!!
Money talks and ………..

Keep your posts coming, amazing what it triggers in us!

Lisa at Grandma's Briefs - I have a pit bull. Sweetest thing ever. THIS is so true: “The truth is, it’s not the Pit Bull I should fear; it’s their human parents that can be off the wall nuts.”

What I’m scared of: Dying in a car accident (or just being banged up… which might be even worse) and falling down stairs. Any stairs. Anywhere. It’s a phobia, not just a fear. Really. More so that those I love will fall down the stairs.

Carol Cassara - My primal fear is now mentally ill copilots alone in the cockpit.

Tammy - I so agree, Lois. And some we may even be related to! OY!

Angela Weight - Love this. It was really funny. And I could very much relate, especially to hair in food and politicians. Love how you tied it all back to being normal in the last paragraph.

Tammy - I REALLY need to get ahold of one of those ninja aura shields, Ande! That would make life so much easier! Interesting point you’ve made (genius), internal and external. Hmmmm, do I feel another blog coming on? Love you right back, Goddess Ande. I am your truest fan! MUAH!

Tammy - So happy you stopped by for the read, Carolann! I’m beginning to think that clowns must lead a very lonely life. No one else seems to care for their either. Perhaps…maybe….you never know….I could be more normal than I thought?

Tammy - HAAAAA, too funny, Cindy! I love that….and I think I love your husband too. You’re a hoot! Glad you enjoyed the read and REALLY glad you stopped by to comment. Thanks for that.

Tammy - Hi Shelley, I was told by our monthly service exterminator guy (Jim) that the spray gets on their feet and that they will die from it. Is he telling me a load of hooey? Geesh, you can’t trust anyone these days! The spider that jumped up in my face had “fur” on his legs. I swear, I thought my heart was in my throat. Aaaaaah!

Tammy - OMG, Carmen, this is an EXCELLENT fear and something tells me you have had first hand experience in this arena. You have my sympathies and invitation for a martini hour with me. LOVE hearing from you. LOVE it! xo

Tammy - Lisa, I SO agree about the Pit Bulls. You just never know who is on the other side of that leash (am I not talking about the furry one). Humans exploit the fact that Pits are uber strong and excellent fight dogs. But I’ve NEVER met a dog that would rather fight than get a belly rub. If only we could eliminate the crazy humans and propagate the awesome canines! What a perfect world it would be.

Tammy - OMG, Carol, can you believe it? I’m beyond stunned and mortified. Grief stricken for people I will never meet. As if we freaking needed another reason to be afraid to fly. God Almighty…the train is sounded better every day.

Tammy - Hi Angela, tying it all together is what I do best. Not saying that it makes much sense, but, hey, a girl can try. I LOVE that I’m not the only one who goes nuts about hair in my food. So glad you popped by for the read and happy that you shared your comment. Thanks for that.

Dana - Ok- You nailed me! I am so your soul sister and can relate to this all, although Kim as first lady is way less scary than some of the other scary things…just saying

Tammy - Thanks, Dana. Since I’ve written that piece I’ve thought of half a dozen more things that are terrifying. Can we say “sequel”? I don’t know, Kanye West as first man sounds pretty damn scary to me!

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