This past week has dealt me a good piece of fear. The dreaded word, ‘cancer’, entered the life of someone I love. It is not my first encounter with this robber of hope.
I needed a day or two to keep my head down, reassess the situation, do a little soul searching and fact checking. I needed the time to get a hold of myself and let my inner voice speak louder than my fearful one.
It’s only natural to fear the unknown, the uncertain, and the unimaginable.
Whether you are struggling to keep your head above water financially, fighting a disease or just trying to figure out the whole happiness factor, life dishes out fear in big doses.
I remember many years ago talking on the phone with my dad about how afraid I was of failing. He was quiet for a moment and then said in a very low and serious voice (so unlike my dad) “Mi hija, (‘my daughter’, in Spanish) fear is a liar”. Fewer words have rung more true to me.
Fear paralyzes. It limits us and keeps us in a place we don’t belong. It keeps us from moving forward, making the bold decisions, the right choices and taking the courageous road. Fear is a bitch.
I think we see the best of ourselves when our backs are up against the wall. We find out what we are made of. And what we are made of is courage, awe and strength. It’s easy to forget that in today’s world as we are beat down by sickness, bills, unhappiness, unemployment, and the unknown. But it doesn’t make it any less true.
I know such talented people; the budding photographer who has an extraordinary eye for beauty, the quilt maker that conjures up one-of-a-kind masterpieces that stir the soul, the writer who paints a story like Picasso painted a picture, and the would-be speaker that has a message that can change the world. They are all held back by their fear. Few things are sadder to me than that.
I think that knowing these wonderful people has greatly inspired me towards my coaching field. Being able to help people cross the bridge of fear into the place where they were always meant to be is a blessing to me. I take it very personally.
And so I just want to share this thought with you: never trust fear. It will lie to you every time.
Whatever you want to do, to become, to achieve, to defeat; if you believe that you can … you simply will.
I know it to be true because I live it. Every day.