Books telling us how to find a man, flirt with a man, marry a man; are a dime a dozen. What no one is telling the single woman is that they are smarter, have more friends, get more sleep, achieve more in life, have better sex, travel more, are less depressed, have better bodies, and do less housework. So why, exactly, are we all looking for husbands? The answer is: we’re not.
According to a recent survey of 100 single women past 50, 98 out of 100 states that they will not remarry. While husbands are off the radar, lovers are not.
So, if the single woman is so much better off without the benefit of marriage, why are on-line dating sites surging with over fifty users? Good question.
Forty nine percent of us couple up to have someone to talk to and do things with. Eighteen percent of us date to have fun, and five times as many men, compared to women, date to fulfill sexual needs.
While the value of a marriage certificate can be argued, the value of a loved one to share our lives with cannot. As it turns out, being single doesn’t mean being celibate and lonely.
Looking for love doesn’t come naturally. We have to work at it. The hardest part of this quest isn’t really the search for a mate; it’s the being open to one when he arrives.
As anyone can testify from reading my book; Single Past 50 Now What?, I’m a big proponent of the single life. That being said, sharing love is a very good thing. I wouldn’t turn down a happily ever after if it found its way to me. And I’m thinking…any day now. Whether I will marry for the privilege; well, that remains to be seen.