I’ve had my belly full of unsolicited advice, ill spirited innuendo and “friendly” recommendations. I am not amused.
I very recently had an in depth conversation with a newly made friend who wanted to level with me. Allow me to level it right back. Let’s do this.
I am well aware that if I used Botox I would look years younger. I don’t give a rat’s butt. At this point I think I look just fine as I am. I’m sure I could look better, but my natural best is good enough for me, at least for now. I’ve tried Botox and it gave me a horrendous headache. For days. Besides, I happen to be fond of facial expressions.
I know I would look better in my natural hair color (as a brunette). The fact is, my hair is going crazy gray and I’m not the least bit interested in spending hour upon hour at the salon while spending hundreds of dollars for the privilege. Besides, I have a sneaky feeling that all that hair dye throughout the years has something to do with me never remembering where my car keys are. So, I’ve lightened my hair to accommodate the increasing gray. I’m not thrilled about it, but I am at peace with it.
I am well aware that I am fluffier than I should be. Thank you so much for pointing that out. Do you not think I own a mirror? Or perhaps you thought me delusional? I’ve had a lot on my plate the last few months and I’ve partaken in some comfort foods to get me by. That, combined with 4 months of leg cast inactivity was admittedly, the perfect storm. Not that it’s your business, but I’m working diligently on the problem. Of course I want to be healthier. I also want to fit into my fabulous wardrobe.
I know I could increase my business tenfold and I know you don’t understand why I don’t go for it. But at the moment I’ve got plenty of clients who pay good money for my time. I ONLY work with people I like and I absolutely love what I do. I work the hours I want with time left over for a real life. I once owned a company with 21 employees. I quickly learned the misery that came with it. It took years for me to learn balance. I’m just where I want to be, thank you.
Of course I would change some things if I had them to do over. I’m not a moron. I learn from my mistakes and I still carry regret for some of them. I admit some of the knowledge has come too late. But is has never fallen on deaf ears. I never said I was perfect.
Yes, I am lucky that I found a good man, or rather, that he found me. This wonderful man is with me because I’m pretty fabulous myself and am worth every effort he has put forth to be with me. Our relationship is as a result of hard work, patience, compromise, respect and lots and lots of affection and love. Lady Luck didn’t grace me with her happiness wand. I earned it and I deserve every minute of it.
Friendship is about loving and supporting each other. It’s about protecting the other’s feelings, being there no matter what, crying with them and plotting vengeance when it’s called for. A good friend is tolerant, understanding, patient, uncritical and forever respectful. I feel I need to say this out loud as clearly the definition has somehow eluded you.
Here’s the deal, when you have a friend that has a competitive and malicious streak, more often than not, you need to cut them loose. You can’t and won’t change them. Only they can do that.
I find that at this point in my life I simply don’t have time to suffer such nonsense. Nor am I inclined, as I have been in past years, to let stuff like this slide.
Let your truth set you free from people who try to pull you down to their level. Trust me when I tell you; it doesn’t matter how old you are, you simply don’t have the time to waste on them.
I’m not sure what you think about negative haters that disguise themselves as friends, but let us all resolve to not allow negativity, jealousy, ignorance, malicious behavior, and unsupported friendships into our lives. Life is too short for meaningless drama.
Do I hear an Amen?!
I feel SO much better now.