I’ve never known anyone in my life who was 60 that I didn’t consider old. There you have it. I’m officially an old broad … in a few days. I guess it was inevitable, if I was to be one of the lucky ones.
I must confess that turning 60 feels a bit daunting to me. I’ve never once been intimidated by a birthday, but this one may be the exception.
If you were to ask me what life was all about, it would take little thought from me to answer you: life isn’t about the future or the past. It’s purely and simply about the now.
I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. I must say that I like it like that. I’m still venturing, trying new things, and new ideas. Old habits are hard to break.
I don’t think I look my age, but I’m not sure it would be a bad thing if I did. Age really only matters is you’re a fine wine or a cheese. I’m neither.
I must admit that I imagined myself thinner, richer and having a butler by the time I reached 60. I remember the TV show Hart to Hart. I loved Max, and vowed I would have someone just like him by the time I reached 60. All right, fine. The closest thing I have to a butler is my scraggly little dog that does my beckoning. When she damn well feels like it. But … it’s good to have goals.
I knew that by the time I reached this wonderful age, my child would be grown and off on her own. This would afford me the chance to travel the world and have exotic adventures. I didn’t count on my 27 year marriage ending in divorce. It all works out, as love found me again a few years later and while we have so far traveled to Alaska, Spain, New York, Sedona, Santa Fe, Las Vegas, Carmel, Phoenix, Breckenridge, Hawaii, Santa Barbara, San Diego, and La Quinta…we have big plans. I love big plans!
I’m not particularly fond of the speed with which the days fly by. All those wonderful memories we have in our lives; our first bike, first sleepover, school awards, parties, first love, children, family, they are all with us for what seems like a fleeting moment of time. Small slices of life which seem so long when we are in the living of it, but are, in fact, as brief as the vanishing vapor.
My life has been about taking chances, living honestly, laughing loud and often, loving earnestly, sharing, eating, learning, exploring, and helping others when I can. And chocolate. Let’s never forget the chocolate.
As I approach this milestone birthday, I pause at the thought of running out of life’s moments too soon. Am I perhaps too old to travel, hike up to Machu Pichu, walk over the Brooklyn Bridge, eat greasy food, and ride roller coasters?
I pray not.
I’d like to live my remaining years (may they be many) to the hilt. I wouldn’t mind living long enough to benefit from a facelift, new boobs and a butt lift. In view of the fact that I’m not particularly fond of doctors or needles, I may need a fifth of vodka to pursue this dream. Still, if you want something bad enough …
This year we will be spending my big day reminiscing as we drive the beautiful central coast of California to the wine country and Hearst Castle on our 4 day road trip. I visited this amazing estate when I was 23, and loved it so very much. I promised myself that I would return the following year. This trip will be my first time back since that first visit 37 years ago. Where did the time go? Better late than never.
And so, THAT is my motto for my 6th decade: better late than never! Because I’ve often allowed my life to become clogged with an onslaught of appointments, deadlines, business meetings, obligations, luncheons, endless hours of social media tracking, countless hours of freeway driving and a slew of “have to’s”. It’s all about balance. I work on it every day.
I figure that I should have some advantages at my age. What they should be, I haven’t a clue. Other than getting a free Grand Slam breakfast at Denny’s, my expectations are wide open.
Turning 60 doesn’t feel like I had expected it to feel. I don’t foresee my slowing down any time soon. I’ve got a lot of things on my bucket list and I don’t think God could stand the whining if I wasn’t able to get to most of them.