A post of mine was featured on Huffington Post this past Friday.
The hate speak it garnered was pretty impressive.
It received over 5,000 Likes, hundreds of Shares and nearly 200 comments. Most of them not so friendly.
What was it about? It was about starting over, fear and courage. A shadow post of one I have shared with you here. I’ve left a link for you at the end of this post should you want to check it out.
Here are some of my favorite UNfavorite quotes:
“Gag me. And ladies, please do not give up everything to follow a man. It’s too bad she couldn’t be happy alone in her own skin.”
“Yeah, I live in the REAL world… this woman doesn’t have a clue what it takes to survive when you’re really, really, really on your own.”
“Wow, poor Tammy Bleck had to trade in a Benz for a BMW post divorce. #1stworldproblems.
“LOL…this is not how most women go through a divorce…this is what is called a “priviledged”(mis-spelled) divorce.”
From what I can gather, most of the anger came from my reference of selling my Mercedes and buying a used BMW and belonging to a country club. All true, by the way.
Here’s the rest of the truth. I worked my ass for that Mercedes and owned it for 13 years. We had our own business which we worked 60-70 hours a week. We went into debt to join the country club so our daughter could use their facilities during the summer months, like their pool, tennis courts, and summer camps, opting for the “social level” membership.
But why should I have to explain any of this to anyone when the post was about focusing on overcoming your fears and moving forward with your life post-divorce?
And why are we so judgmental and mean spirited with each other? What ever happened to civility and consideration?
Are people really that rotten?
There seems to be a growing class distinction that is separating us and superseding our compassion for one another. It seems we have once again become a society of the “have’s” and the “have nots”. One pitched against the other. Statistics tell us that the middle class is dwindling rapidly. And while I don’t agree with that assessment, there are many that think we will all end up on one side of the fence or the other.
Class distinction breeds envy. Envy breeds hate. Hate breeds violence. And don’t think for a moment that a little blog can’t shine a light on it. I did exactly that, albeit, unintentional.
If I am better-off than you, you might find me less likeable, my problems less significant, and my pain less important. And yet, the same would hold true if I were worse-off than you.
I was called out as wealthy, privileged and part of the 1 percent because I owned a Mercedes. Trust me when I share with you, that there are TONS of people who own very expensive cars and live in big houses who are living paycheck to paycheck.
When my divorce came into play I was devastated, just like everyone else, emotionally and financially. I had paid the bills for years but found I had no credit in my own name. The utilities, insurance, contracts, etc. weren’t in my name. My ex-husband got the business in the divorce, along with its assets.
Quickly unemployed, my credit cards cut in half by sympathetic store clerks, my house in foreclosure, I took what I had, which was in part my 13 year old Mercedes (fortunately owned outright) sold it, and moved on.
And I was slammed for it on social media. Twitter had a field day. Facebook did too. I was labeled privileged, wealthy, advantaged, etc. And I was hated and vilified for it.
You don’t have to like me. You don’t have to like what I write. You can disagree to your hearts content. It keeps things interesting. BUT why can’t we keep it civil?
When did we stop being considerate towards one another? I disagree with people all the time. I do it respectfully. They are entitled to their opinion, and I to mine.
I write for many public forums. It is my privilege to write for the Huffington Post. I think I contribute viable content there. I understand that when I put myself out there to the general public I’m opening myself up to all kinds of opinions.
The real question here is: if we judge people by what they have, what car they drive, what house they live in, what jewelry they wear … where will it lead us?
You tell me.