But these past couple of weeks had me steeped in unwanted and volatile conversation about it. The Bible talks about it, Romans partook in it, and if we fast forward centuries, it is still going strong.
Why are we, as a nation, so obsessed with judging who someone else chooses to love? If it doesn’t involve children, animals or illegal behavior; if it’s consenting, well, my darlings, it’s none of my business and it’s none of yours either.
For some reason we seem obsessed and compelled to judge other people’s sexual habits. We hold up signs, leave hate messages, political parties grandstand on the subject and their judgments divide the world.
Do we not have enough issues to argue over; things that really matter to our world, to our planet? Do we really need to be divided on the subject of who goes to bed with whom, who loves whom, and what rights they deserve? I think you know my answer.
What’s that you say? God told you to hate and judge? Hmm, forgive my skeptical heart but I’m willing to bet my soul that God does not bid his children to hate or judge one another. Judgment would be God’s job, not yours. Regardless of your faith, God speaks of love, tolerance, forgiveness and loving your neighbor. It really is that simple, folks. It’s my personal opinion that God does not appreciate being dragged into the darkness of people’s prejudices, opinions and hate. But that’s just me.
I was born and raised in Los Angeles, CA. Diversity is the name of this city, and acceptance is its game. It seems we are all from somewhere else. We all have different ethnicities, aspirations, religions, colors and sexual preferences. I raised my daughter to not judge anyone by what they wear, who they worship, the color of their skin or who they choose to love.
I taught her, rather, to judge someone by their character, their actions and their kindness (or lack of). I’m proud of how she conducts her life today and I’d like to think that I had something to do with her open mind and open heart.
I wish I would have had the opportunity to raise the thousands of people I see propagating hate, discrimination and violence against those people who were simply born different. I firmly believe that hate and bias is taught. We are not born with these burdens.
So, when you see me at a cocktail party, a convention, or a book/writing event, PLEASE don’t bring this subject up to me in hopes of changing my mind. You won’t. Neither do I criticize you for your thoughts and ideals. I just condemn your zeal and willingness to try to regulate those who don’t think like you.
Hate, violence and prejudice are as old as time itself. And time has proven to us that they give us nothing but more of the same. Righteousness has little to do with oppression and judgment.
In short, I’d like to tell my friends (and enemies) that if you can’t mind your own business, then mind your own mouth. I’m not interested in your small minded opinions, your dark harboring of judgment or your ideas of how to make the world a better place by oppressing others.
This is not Iran. This is America. Have your opinions, voice your choice. Then live and let live. It’s what America is all about.