I think this opinion has been formed about me because of my words. I consider them to be one of my greatest assets and I use them freely.
Words are mighty. Few things enlighten better or hurt more.
Make no mistake, words are a lethal weapon. They can also sooth, dry tears, give confidence, provide insight and give endless comfort and encouragement. And, they can intimidate.
I am in the second part of my life (geez, now I’m depressed), and I’ve learned that words can solve almost any problem I have. I’ve also learned that they can create quite a few.
Wars have been started with words. They’ve also been ended by them.
If you look at a successful marriage or relationship, you will find people who are willing to share their inner most feelings, needs, fears, hopes and dreams … through words. Without the ability to put our words together to form our thoughts, we are lost.
The absence of words can be devastating. Many a relationship has been brought down by one partner’s inability or unwillingness to talk things through. I can count myself among the casualties.
I find it very interesting that when we yell our words, they tend to lose their power; a bit ironic when you consider that whispering them will make people pay attention.
When I think about the times in my life that I’ve been very hurt or extremely happy, it was most often something someone said to me that made me feel that way. An ill spoken word by someone we love can do irreparable damage. Ask any child that was verbally abused or any spouse that was belittled.
People pay big bucks to go hear motivational speakers. Most often they hear what their hearts already know, but hearing it from someone else is what brings it all together for us; words.
Listening to someone’s words is every bit as important as speaking them. Every divorced person knows this first hand. I’ve noticed that the unhappiest people are those who have never mastered the ability to talk to someone in a civil way.
I’ve used my words to approach a stranger who was mistreating an animal, parking illegally, trying to purchase 30 items in the 15 items or less lane (not on my watch) and anytime people do inconsiderate things. If that makes me intimidating, well so be it.
I look at it this way; words were meant to be spoken and shared. We all have the same amount of them. The playing field is level.
So, if you encounter me and you are rude, I will use my words to let you know that I’m not amused. I’ll also let you know that you look lovely today, that you have a great smile and your dog is adorable.
If you find that intimidating, use your words to tell me so.
I’ll be listening.