Do you ever feel like you keep trying to force a square peg into the round hole of life? Hello?
Sometimes no matter how many rules you follow, how good you are, how hard you try, how many classes you take or how many late hours you work, things just don’t pan out.
Life can be hard. So can careers, families and relationships.
This brings to mind a popular quote many Americans live by from Friedrich Nietzsche, a 19th century philosopher and writer: That which does not kill us makes us stronger.
Hooey! I know plenty of people who were not made stronger by their challenges and they were not killed, but just left to linger in a limbo of confused despair. We can do better than that.
Sometimes following the rules, thinking inside the box can kill you … or worse yet, might make you wish you were dead.
Compromise is a necessary quality. Knowing when not to is salvation.
Maybe, just maybe, if it’s too hard and it feels like its breaking you…it might be. Maybe you should be exploring another route; a different way, a different career, relationship or lifestyle.
Not to say that I don’t believe in the virtue of perseverance. But rather, that perseverance should be coupled with an open mind and enough creative thinking to find a route that will produce less collateral damage and get you where you want to go.
When doors slam shut, when lies and deceit compromise relationships, or when employers mistreat staff, it rarely occurs to us that it might be life’s way of showing us that we shouldn’t be there in the first place; a polite way of showing us the door.
When a goal is rendered unaccomplished, another dream is waiting to be fulfilled.
Think of Lucille Ball (who doesn’t love Lucy?). All she ever wanted to be was a dancer. When she broke her leg before a big Follies’ show, she was shown the door. With a strong need to eat and pay the bills, she temporarily turned to acting. The rest is history.
The tried and true should be revered but not worshiped.
In these tough economic times, it’s hard to remember what we are good at, what we want out of life and what makes us happy. Instead we see only the square peg and the round hole. Think again.
Break the rules, think out of the box, plan scheme and plot, dream big.
Save yourself before you try to conquer the world and it’s gold. YOU are worth much more than either.
Maybe it’s time to make your own history.